• Seigest@lemmy.ca
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    I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I can’t lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.

    In this situation. “Will you miss us?” (assuming I won’t)

    “Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future” (not implying I actually want to)

    “So long everyone!”(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)

    “I’m sure I’ll meet many new people at my next opportunity” (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)

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      In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.

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        Fair enough. You never know though. A place that fired me a years back in a city far from where I live now, is now my primary vendor. I need to work with them closely. So I am happy I didn’t burn too many bridges on the way out.

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        neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings

        you say this like not deliberately hurting people’s feelings for zero reason at no cost to yourself is a bad thing

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          I love how you just COMPLETELY ignore the fact that the people have obviously not been enjoyable to be around for an extended amount of time

          Having to spend time around people you don’t enjoy? perfectly fine
          making those people a little sad once? how dare you

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            so you’re saying you’re willing to hurt 20 people x amount in order to save yourself y amount of suffering. Literally nothing more neurotypical than that.

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              That’s not what I said. I just said the cost was significant, because you said “at no cost”. I didn’t say I would never pay it.

              Also, twice now you’ve relied on wild hyperbolic statements to make your point. If I may offer some advice - I think avoiding those is better online, as they makes your comments seem like emotional knee-jerk, which undermines your credibility.

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      “Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future.”

      I couldn’t help but read that in a generic Vulcan voice that was a mix of Spock and the “We ain’t found shit!” guy.

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        The “we ain’t found shit” guy from Spaceballs was a Vulkan in Star Trek Voyager, Tim Russ played Tuvok. So really, you can read it in just Tuvok’s voice.

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          I was joking that Tim Russ complains that is the role he is known for. I personally know him more as Tuvok, but that’s because my parents wouldn’t let me watch Spaceballs, so I saw Voyager first

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            all right lemmy, it’s time for a fight

            Tuvix didn’t deserve to die, and even without considering Tuvix Janeway is a war criminal

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        Well it does say “infront if everyone”. I assumed that also includes coleuages. Co workers are not corporate overlords.

        I’m not saying it’s a good thing, it’s another dumb micro ceremony regardless. And if you in a position where you don’t have to play the stupid games then I envy you. But my advice my be of some use for those us poor bastards who need to play along.

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      This feels like the moment I realized that figuring out a way to say ‘thank you’ rather than ‘I’m sorry’ grants +1 CHA