I have a hard time imagining both those lines coming from the same person. Maybe, I guess? But I agree, 1 is loving and supportive; 2 is mean & hurtful.
What a terrible family op (greentext op) must have.
All I can say is that, yes, this absolutely happens to people. Sometimes abuse is loud, bold, and psychologically twisted like this. Other times, it’s well-placed silence.
PSA: If you have anyone you care about with bad family like this, and know you can provide a better environment for just a few hours, have them over for a family meal. You’ll make a friend for life.
Publically and condescendingly berating a (presumably) grown man in front of his entire family, infantilizing him and the crypto thing, the little power demonstration with the drinks, getting everyone to laugh at the poor jobless bastard?
Not sure how wholesome that seems to me. Chewing someone out in public, especially at dinner, is asshole behavior. Being overbearingly “positive” about it on the surface doesn’t really help.
If I’m going to work every day to support your fat lazy adult ass while you blow money on jpgs of monkeys I’m within my rights to bust your balls about it and you’re lucky I haven’t thrown you out and turned your basement into a home gym
wholesome
change my mind
Nothing like knowing your whole family thinks you are a loser during christmas, and being sickly sweet about it.
Just looking at this picture my brain made enough cortisol for the rest of the day.
First paragraph? Absolutely. I would love that level of engagement and personal interest from family.
Second response and the punchline? Well, that’s what we’re here for. Of course it’s awful.
I have a hard time imagining both those lines coming from the same person. Maybe, I guess? But I agree, 1 is loving and supportive; 2 is mean & hurtful.
What a terrible family op (greentext op) must have.
It’s great that you’ve never had a passive aggressive family member to deal with.
All I can say is that, yes, this absolutely happens to people. Sometimes abuse is loud, bold, and psychologically twisted like this. Other times, it’s well-placed silence.
PSA: If you have anyone you care about with bad family like this, and know you can provide a better environment for just a few hours, have them over for a family meal. You’ll make a friend for life.
Hell
Publically and condescendingly berating a (presumably) grown man in front of his entire family, infantilizing him and the crypto thing, the little power demonstration with the drinks, getting everyone to laugh at the poor jobless bastard?
Not sure how wholesome that seems to me. Chewing someone out in public, especially at dinner, is asshole behavior. Being overbearingly “positive” about it on the surface doesn’t really help.
If I’m going to work every day to support your fat lazy adult ass while you blow money on jpgs of monkeys I’m within my rights to bust your balls about it and you’re lucky I haven’t thrown you out and turned your basement into a home gym
Maybe, for some definition of “rights”. If doing it in public, it would still 100% make you an asshole no matter how right you were.
Agreed. It sounds like this is a family dinner at home, though. Anons family already know he’s a loser.
Because feeding their depression is the best way to fix the problem.
If he believes it’s his parents job to fix him that’s about 75% of the problem right there
That’s what being a parent is about though.
Supporting your children well into adulthood and solving mental issues you’re not qualified to address is a parents job?