It’s supposed to help our attachment to each other and mental health to take a break, but we’re gonna miss each other deeply. I was sad before and we were talking so much but I had a PTSD breakdown and now we’re not gonna speak to each other. At least it will be 24 hours sending like one message to each other but I think I’ll cry more.

He wants to take one, and I won’t force him to not do it just because of my selfish desires, but I will miss him and want to know if anyone was in a similar place or knows how to help me “survive”?

I probably need one since I’ve been not mentally well, but I think future me will struggle to take it well due to attachment to him and missing him even when i’m not supposed to talk to him. Plus, everything that reminds me of him will cause me to start sobbing.

  • iii@mander.xyzEnglish
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    1 day ago

    Plus, everything that reminds me of him will cause me to start sobbing.

    For me it was fleeing the pain that caused such a constant high state of allertness, and restlessness, and in a self-fulfilling way: pain.

    The solution for me was to sob, and cry, and feel it. All. 🤍

    Don’t need to open the floodgates, but don’t pretend there isn’t enormous pressure on the levies either. Release the pressure, at a comfortable rate.

      • forrgott@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
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        1 day ago

        If the picture a source of negative emotions? Maybe. Or is it a source of comfort? Only you can determine if seeing his picture frequently is helping or hindering you.

      • iii@mander.xyzEnglish
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        1 day ago

        Watch bridget jones. Not a joke 😊. When I was on such a high state of alertness, it made it very difficult to recognize my own emotions.

        Looking at how others do it, helped with self-reflection.

        Put some beautiful flowers or sunset as background image. But more importantly: don’t use the phone, for a while. Put it out of arms reach, in the next room. It’s a bad kind of distraction.

        And yes, I know this is all easy to say, but hard to do. Just think about the next step, not the whole plan. 🤍🌸🩷