I had some relationships before, but one of them (10 Years from now) hit me so hard, that i struggle with it for today on. My Ex Cheated on me with several other guys on a schooltrip. We were in an monogam relationship that time so… Needless to say that I ended it after that trip.
After that time i See dangerous in other guys for my relationships.
I know that it is not the case. And that my previous relationships is not my current one, but that trauma sits deep whithin me. I was often jealous but with the help of a book i managed to control it, and things got better.
My current girlfriend has a longtime friend (Kevin) since school. They sometimes seeing each other and walk together through the park. That happens 2-4 Times a year. So not really often.
On one trip Kevin told my girlfriend, that he met a girl (Sahra) which he only knows from a videogame, fucked her and wants to move to her by 2025. Sahra had a relationship in that time. So she cheated with Kevin on her boyfriend (Mathew) that time. On New Years Eve Sahra broke up with Kevin because things between her and her boyfriend Mathew got better again. Remember that for later.
My girlfriend and I live together but sometimes she stays on her parents house to watch their cats. Most of the time I am with her to help her.
One day in 2022 she broke up with me for several hours on our Anniversary-Date after dinner.
She told me that for her taste we had too often sex, and that she is not comfortable with that. I told her, that we could discussed that normally without a breakup and that we can slow things down. So after that day, we came from 2-3 Times Sex in a week to… 2-4 in a year. But we managed to stay together and things again got better.
We stayed for this week at her parents house, to watch their cats again.
Yesterday I drove home, while she visited a friend.
Today we would meet up again at her parents home and stay for the weekend together.
But she told me, that Kevin - which I introduced before -, wants to meet up with her, at her parents home, to play some boardgames and watch films together.
I said “okay, what should I bring from home?”. And than she told me, that she would do something in private with him in her parents house. I told her, that by the circumstances I’m not okay with this, because I’ve a bad feeling about this. Now she isn’t replying since hours… And that drives me crazy -_- Am I overreacting?
Makes sense to me. I came back to this a little late, did not see your replies to my comment(s) until now. Having read everything you wrote: your parents not at home (I thought they were), she reducing sex massively, her not wanting to talk about you, the increase in contact to the guy, all seemed to me like she was not attracted to you anymore.
I’m really sorry. If you need someone to talk to or something (in German as well if you like, your name sounds like that, I’m from Germany), we can if you want. I haven’t had a situation like this, but I know how much breakups hurt.
Ja ich bin Deutscher. Das macht es deutlich einfacher zu schreiben. Tja 6 Jahre einfach weg… Ist echt scheiße.
Ich danke dir auf jeden Fall dafür, dass du das alles gelesen hast und dich mit meiner Situation beschäftigt hast!
Und vor allem auch für das Angebot!
Aber ich glaube ich will jetzt erstmal alleine sein… Ich fühl mich im Moment noch wie betäubt…
Ich konnte nicht weinen, wie beim ersten Mal. Sie dafür diesmal schon.
Meinte Sie hätte mich lieber erst jetzt kennengelernt. Im Moment sieht Sie in mir nur noch die Fehler die Ich am Anfang unserer Beziehung gemacht habe. Meint aber auch das es unfair ist, weil ich mich schon deutlich gebessert habe und man das auch sieht… Es nur halt nicht reicht.
Sie will mich nicht verletzen, aber Sie ist nicht mehr glücklich.
Sie will es sich heute nochmal durch den Kopf gehen lassen und mir morgen mitteilen ob es diesmal endgültig ist…
Zum Glück ist das Remaster von Oblivion released worden und ich hab noch Urlaub. Schlafen kann ich jetzt eh erstmal nicht mehr :/
Nix zu danken. Ist verständlich das mit dem alleine sein.
Ich hab selbst vor 2.5 Jahren einvernehmlich ne 7 jährige Beziehung beendet, ich habe die Grundlagen geändert und sie hat dann gesagt, dass das für sie nicht geht. War danach auch ziemlich am Arsch xD
Dann mal viel Spaß mit dem remaster. Ich hab zu der Zeit viel Dota gespielt :)