I know the question is a bit vague, but I’m hoping people will interpret this however they see fit an give their own experiences.
To be honest, I’m struggling a bit with this right now and would enjoy reading others’ experiences.
There’s a youtuber named Martina who has EDS who uses a phrase “build a ladder” to describe how she helps herself feel better.
Here’s a link to a video she made to help out if you need help building a ladder yourself. Would highly recommend. You got this :)
Edit:
Better yet, Here’s a video of 40 things that can make you happy in your everyday life <3
I walk dogs at a dog shelter. Makes me feel good, helps the doggos. Why not.
I take a little white pill every morning.
I’ve got a lot of good things, but I wasn’t feeling good. It got bad enough my counselor told me to see my doctor. My Doctor wrote a prescription.
I feel normal again. I didn’t know anything was wrong, but it was.
i survive
this is how
i pet the cat
she say, “meow”she says, “meow”
why does she?
I don’t know
maybe she loves me
If you’re stuck in your head get out of your head.
That is to say, if your thoughts are getting to you, you’re in you’re head. You need to do something that takes you out of your thoughts. What does that mean?
It means engage your senses, deliberately. Focus on your senses.
Huh?
Go for a walk in a park, go get some fancy cheese, listen to some good music, take a hot shower, and watch a new TV show, pick up a hobby.
Get your brain doing stuff it doesn’t do. You’ll build connections in your brain that will help take you out of your tunnel vision/ruminations.
I’ve found that it’s easier to avoid misery than it is to find joy. Some tips given here reflect that as well. Cut off toxic people from your life. Don’t dwell on tiny things for the full day.
I have an example. I went to get some coffee yesterday. There was a man in front of barista counter. The barista asked me for my order, and my instinct was to ask if the man next to me had been served. I didn’t think twice about it. She got visibly upset at me for having the audacity to ask him. She took my order but she continued to mumble audibly about how she gave eye contact, and she knew how to do her job, etc. As if my remark towards the man belittled her experience and skills.
She had no idea what my intent was, but she assumed the worst. For doing so, she ruined her own day with it. It’s all about perspective.
She also ruined my coffee but I didn’t let that ruin my day either haha.
Taking naps with our dog and hearing and feeling her peaceful breathing as she sleeps on my pillow with her snoot snuzzled against my face or ear.
