• Ð Greıt Þu̇mpkin@lemm.ee
    572·
    9 months ago

    Also the sheer level of sadism that comes out in a relationships story about infidelity

    Everything short of admitting to fantasizing about murdering the cheater gets you called a doormat these days, and victims of very concerted deception efforts get called idiots for being deceived.

    • saltesc@lemmy.world
      8·
      9 months ago

      I remember an Ask Reddit for people that cheated. Most of them were in an abusive or manipulative relationship of some kind, yet most still felt guilty for acting out. Some chose to cheat and be caught because everything else they tried to get away hadn’t worked—obviiusly even that didn’t work in some cases.

      • Ð Greıt Þu̇mpkin@lemm.ee
        5·
        9 months ago

        Yeah but those aren’t usually the people who get the reddit stories specifically about them,

        Honestly I think that explains the phenomenon, it’s a reporter effect, everyone lashes out so hard at cheaters because the ones they hear about aren’t deliberately trying to escape a toxic relationship, they’re selfish and narcissistic or lead into that mindset enough to destroy someone else’s life over it.

        Honestly I just think it’s a sign that we need more supporting resources available to people, like state run shelters and stuff, because not being able to find security if they leave is what traps so many people in abusive relationships to begin with.

  • mommykink@lemmy.world
    385·
    9 months ago

    Right next to that is the “fuck around and find out” (and all the variations of it) in my list of phrases I will downvote on sight

      • wrath_of_grunge@kbin.social
        3·
        9 months ago

        everyone knows, there’s a certain amount of fucking around you get for free. the real problem is that the finding out part can happen quick, and seem to come out of nowhere.

  • rustyfish@lemmy.world
    261·
    9 months ago

    Even the most toxic shit I saw on Lemmy is a normal day on Reddit in comparison.

    It’s not perfect. There are Reddit 2.0 out there. But luckily they have been defederated.

  • DBT@lemmy.world
    16·
    9 months ago

    Play stupid games, fuck around and be in the find out stage. (⌐■_■)