Same problem as most everyone else really, one month away from homelessness.
Modern civilisation is ending and likely cannot be stopped.
Suggestions on a postcard pls.
So long, and thanks for all the fish
So sad that it should come to this
We tried to warn you all but oh dear
I moderated r/collapse for about a year. I’ve been aware since 2012 what is coming and it’s only this last year that it’s like a switch was flipped. This summer is going to be brutal and it will only get worse.
I can’t talk about this with my wife, as she is unable to cope with the data and shuts down. None of my friends want to talk about the problems we face and call me a downer. I’ve come to the realization that every day that I’m not baking alive, dying of thirst/hunger, or being killed for my meat is a good day that I should cherish.
Pretty much same. Around 2012 it really became apparent that nothing was going to be done in time and I personally flipped from “Science/tech will save us!” to pessimist. At this point it’s just realism.
The way the world handled Covid was the final nail in the coffin for me when the majority of humanity demonstrated that they can’t/won’t behave as a collective to save lives if it inconveniences them. It was the perfect test run for what is to come and most made it abundantly clear they can’t cope with any kind of disruption to their capitalistic routine.
Now the data is beginning to show in the graphs the news is slowly seeping into mainstream circles. But at this it’s way too late and nothing short of ditching the idea of growth and uniting/mobilising the entire world against the issue will solve it.
Luckily my partner is fully aware too so we’re just making what we can of the time we have left. My friends and family on the other hand are busy having kids and whilst appear to listen, obviously don’t grasp the gravity of the situation.
hopefully its the end of the beginning, more than the beginning of the end.
This graph suggests the latter.
Not to mention the rising tensions around the globe reminiscent of the 1930s.
gestures vaguely
Just began the process of divorcing my wife of 4 years for having a sexual relationship with someone I’ve been friends with for over 20 years. With the marriage goes my sense of financial security, a cohesive circle of close friends, a stable place to live, an adorable pup, and pretty much the entirety of my life plans for the next five years. I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and only barely so.
But I’ve learned to rely on myself and my resolve a lot more, and the relationship I’ve begun to forge with my inner-self is something I wouldn’t trade away for anything. And I’ve become a lot closer with the friends I’ve retained, or it feels like I have.
I hope you’ve divorced that shitty friend of yours, too.
I’m sorry for both/all of your losses.
Except for the dog. That dog is yours. And your rock to start rebuilding.
Getting divorced at 57. Only married 8 years, but separated for almost 3 now. I hate online dating. I worry about being creepy when I see someone I’m attracted to. I can’t bring myself to hit on anyone I work with, especially since I’m only attracted to women far younger than me (30s and early 40s). I guess I’m alone from here out, with my only physical contact coming from the occasional massage parlor.
You planning on having kids? If not, maybe deprioritize attraction and focus on someone with a personality.
Bonus: you won’t feel nervous or creepy talking to them.
This is the way 🎯
Man, loneliness sucks! Best I can say is try and fill your free time as much as possible. I met my wife online, but that landscape has completely changed since we got together! At the time, I was in my late 30s and pretty much only out of my apartment for work or gym. If I hadn’t met her, I’m pretty sure gym time would’ve eventually dwindled to zero. Even if you don’t start a new relationship, you’ll be busy and around others. Better than Netflix being you closest “friend!”
Wait, you only are attracted to women in their 30s still, at nearly 60? Oof I am almost your age with kids that old. I can see why you are worried about seeming creepy.
Best of luck to you, in any event, and I do think if you open your window to women who are similar attractiveness to however you look, your prospects will be good, if you had a long run of a relationship you can again, you do know how to live with someone. That’s a valuable life skill. And I agree with d00phy, get out in the world and do things, you will meet people and make connections, that helps.
I’ve always been quite minimalistic so saving money has been very easy for me. After getting fired from my last job over speaking out against the abusive management, I haven’t returned to any work. I’ve also moved back home with my parents to not only save money but also take care of them as they get older and work on a relationship that never really was a relationship in the past (I found out in adulthood that I’m ADHD/Autistic).
It’s been some time since I had been abruptly fired from my job and the lawyers regarding that situation have come and gone from my life. Now I’m limbo. I have enough saved money for at least a year, maybe two. My parents have been gently pushing me to find work.
I just don’t want to work. Not anymore. All that’s left are jobs at soulless corporations which suck all individuality, creativity and happiness out of you. I don’t want to deal with people anymore. I barely want to leave the house knowing I have to share the roads with angry people aggressively driving their murder trucks.
I’m not very motivated to find a job at the never ending end of the world. I’m not sure how I can explain this to my parents who act as if the future is stable even when the news they consume everyday tells a story of a world unravelling.
The only thing I could do which would bring meaning to my current life situation is to join a group that focused on meaningful change for the future. Unfortunately, I live in a rural town that designed itself to have soulless suburbs and populated it with old folks who are completely out of touch with reality.
Have you considered remote work? It’s a godsend
I’m completely disinterested in working for another faceless, soulless entity which only focuses on wealth accumulation. I’m also disinterested in meaningless jobs that do nothing to help make the world a better place for the people that come after me.
At this point, I believe that the only way forward is direct action against unjust hierarchy and those who enforce it. As each day passes, I become more firm in that belief.
If I ever come across people who share the same views as me, I would gladly join them. That would give me the meaning and purpose to move forward that a standard job could never provide.
Until money becomes an issue and I’m forced to work to survive, I’d much rather spend my time around my parents and closest friends.
I do recognize that I am super fortunate to be in such a position, the painful majority of the world must work just to barely exist. I feel awful everytime I have to participate in society and enable the misery machine.
There are plenty of people on Lemmy who feel the same way. Why not organize with them?
I need to be involved locally and physically. My ADHD and impatience with the increasingly complicated technology we use today just doesn’t vibe together anymore. A brutal lesson I learned after my trade school courses I was attending went to an online format.
Lemmy’s userbase is just too small and my physical location is a bit too remote to organize anything. I have an alternate lemmy account at another server where I can connect with like-minded people online but that’s as much as I can get out of Lemmy until it’s userbase becomes significant.
I still search for events happening it the big city but time and distance is a factor I have to take in to consideration.
No car?
No car.
I’m “content” where I am now. I understand you want to help in some way but sometimes listening to someone vent helps more than any advice anyone can give.
People like to talk. People like being heard. People like being understood. Being too proactive can easily get in the way of listening sometimes.
Okay. I’m more than happy to listen.
OP’s solved it everyone!
We all just need to get in our cars that we definitely have and cross oceans to a Lemmy meetup where we amass in our hundreds to bring down the corporate hegemony, solve climate change and live out the rest of our days remotely working together in peace.
Trying to care for my partner with PTSD, she’s alcoholic and actively suicidal. Doctor is trying to help but mental health support has a huge waiting list (months and years). Her son, living with us, is retarded, rude, disrespectful, incompetent, and complains constantly about not being able to get a job so he can move out. (I’m not sure that he’s even employable). My ex wife kicked out my son because he and my youngest are arguing all the time and she (ex wife) can’t cope. He started moving in here but doesn’t get along with my partner so he ran away from home (he’s an adult). Now we have a room full of his stuff but don’t know where he is or whether he’s coming back.
I’m still getting over cancer treatment and l I’m so tired.
I’m fine, how are you?
Jeezus. Dude. I mean. Dude. Err. Do you have some place to vent occasionally?
After multiple times being essentially abandoned, I’ve learned to have absolutely zero sense of self worth. I’m beginning to see just how much that shows through in my behaviors.
For starters, I’m 20 hours late for this post. It’s the two year anniversary of my mother dying of cancer. My brother died of cancer in August. My wife almost died this month. I can’t sleep. I have too much anxiety. I don’t have any face to face friends and I feel too burned out for anyone to want to be my friend.
Lost ones anniversaries are rough. I like to imagine those I’ve lost over time would rather cheer me up than have me remember them through sadness. Still, easier said than done.
(The silver lining about the slower content on lemmy compared to reddit is you can be hours late and still be part of the discussion instead of casting your bottle at sea if you miss the 15 minute window.)
I’m sorry for your losses but remember life is for the living. Live your life as best you can. That’s why they call it the present.
Well, I recently got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. And instead of doing the smart thing, I’ve just been drinking myself to sleep multiple times a day, which is easy to do because I’m unemployed.
I’m constantly having to keep my head on a swivel because I pissed off a person known for shooting people and getting away with it - I didn’t know this when I pissed him off. Honestly shocked that what I said pissed him off to the point he had his friends jump me.
And last night I ran into an old crush who is not single and started the process all over again of trying to get past it and just be friends with him. But it’s hard to just let these feelings go. Fuck my life.
One day at a time.
If you’re worried about your drinking, there’s no time like now to stop.
- I have no friends or family.
- I’m only avoiding suicide cos I’ve failed for 20yrs so proving I’m shit at it.
- My last attempt resulted in a nightmare hospital stay where I got barely any fucking care.
- I’m on probation for a crime I don’t remember committing while psychotic on meth.
- Unemployed
- Polydrug addiction cos life is so shit but I have to remain sober.
Who the hell downvoted you and why?
I havent eaten anything but one small reduced portion of rice and noodles for the whole week
Cause PayPal and western Union do not give me the money they where supposed to
Im two of those reduced portions away from going hungry
I just want a nice warm meal honestly
And I hate that im even bringing this up, it feels icky to tell other what situation I am in
update: my gf whos in california on the other side of the world caught wind and just ordered me a big burger to ebb me over until the money arrives, man, shes the best
This is why food banks exist. It is okay to go there and ask for food. Look for one in your area
I don’t know where you live, but you should feel NO shame for being hungry. If you’re in the US, you can find food banks and meal programs here: https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank
unfortunately, i live in austria
I don’t know if this helps but I hope it does
Either im or other people are mistaking this question.
Does it not state us telling the problem and how people can help it directly?
Pointing to very obvious external services doesn’t sound very much like the posed question.
LostHad to put my dog down on Wednesday.My divorce finalizes on Monday.
It’s mostly the dog thing tho
Right? I once told an ex “not going to miss you, going to miss the dog though”. I was correct.
But then again, your dog had you until the end, so his world was probably pretty okay. You likely did your job well, giving him a life with you in it and he didn’t have to go through the pain of getting used to anything else. This is the contract we have with those shortlived, trusting creatures. In a stupid metaphor, we’re some sort of elves to them, but the price for our seemingly immortal lifetime is, that we are the ones that have to endure so many goodbyes. They accompany you through the years, you accompany them to the end. It’s fair and our lives are richer for it.
In my area there are local lost dog Facebook pages. Good luck! Divorce sucks, but sometimes marriage is worse. Your home should be your calm, safe space.
Yea, I mean ‘lost’, not misplaced lol
Oh man. I’m so sorry.
You gave me a good chuckle. Thank you.
$130,000 in student loan debt. Cosigned by my family members who can’t afford to pay either. I can’t vent to them about it either.
I have a shit job, basically minimum wage, that I commute 45 minutes to.
I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Game Programming. Guess how many of those jobs are available?
I lack the will to live, but don’t have the strength to kill myself.
Why not just make games on your own and put them on the Google Play store? Build a portfolio
Because of the above, I don’t have time. Any free time I get is 2 hours or so.
I might going forward. I finally am getting days off at work. Before I would get day off and I wouldn’t know until the morning of.
Money. Simple like that.
Answer: you need more money
Nah, just get rid of the junk so nobody has money. Just trade time for time (aka help each other).
