My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I’m the complete opposite with my own children and can’t comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.
Therapy
After reflecting from the comments, you are right. I need therapy, Thank you. I know that is easier said then done. As I work full time with kids. The comments help, so thank you to all giving me advice as I take it to heart.
Virtual therapy sessions are a big thing now. I’m sure there’s added benefit to in-person sessions, but if time and life are constraints, the option is there.
I’ve done both and it’s possible my virtual therapy sessions were an outlier but I’d strongly recommend at least starting with in-person. I just didn’t find virtual anywhere near as effective as face to face with another person.
Why do you think that is? What do you feel that younger out of in-person visits that you don’t get virtually?
I’m an anxious person and the thought of seeing someone like that in person stresses me the fuck out tbh
Good luck!
Well, yes it’s probably a good idea but it’s a pretty fucking lazy and unhelpful comment.
It’s better than saying “listen to my dumbassed, drive-by, uniformed opinion on the matter”. But here’s mine anyway. There’s no time for shit people in life, with no exception for blood. Actually, they should be held to higher standards than strangers. Bye, Grandpa!
Random people on the internet giving them advice on something that should be handled by a therapist is what is unhelpful. Sometimes people need to be told in unambiguous terms that the situation they are in is above our paygrade.