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      That word is used to express the feeling you get when some better socialized, but not particularly smart or competent or educated or understanding people disrespect your hobbies/expertise/opinions/feelings while you don’t disrespect theirs.

      I use it sometimes. More often in periods after once again forcing myself to believe that maybe I shouldn’t look at people this way and maybe I’m wrong, and then getting wounded once again.

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          Not quite the word. I’m often ignorant too. It’s rather about ignorance coupled with arrogance and habit of underlining one’s better socialization.

          So calling someone a normie kinda implies that they are proud of being a normie, they just would use other words to say it.

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        You say you’re not disrespecting their expertise or opinions…while in the same breath, calling them “not particularly smart or competent or educated.” Even if, from your point of view, those things are factually true, the fact that you describe people that way makes it instantly clear to me why you’re being disrespected. Maybe that makes me a normie, or “better socialized”, but I wouldn’t be surprised if you were (intentionally or not) disrespecting those “normies” first. I’ve grown up around people who talk like you do, and I’ve seen the responses they get for their actions, rightfully so.

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          Your comment doesn’t make sense, I’m calling them that after the fact, not during the fact, and order of the sequence matters.

          EDIT: Which means that you both failed to understand a simple sentiment and yet showed the typical arrogance to talk about “rightfully so”. So yeah, I’d say you are not particularly smart. After you showed that, again. Not before.

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            You’re the one failing to understand. I’m drawing an inference about how you treated them before and during the interaction you’re complaining about, based on how you’re speaking about them after the fact. I’m saying that the fact that you’re willing to dismiss people as “not particularly smart” after a single interaction is very indicative of you being generally judgemental and rude, traits that will increase the probability that people will be disrespectful to you. This second comment of yours has only further convinced me.

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              before and during

              You have no information at all to draw anything on that.

              after a single interaction

              On that neither.

              is very indicative of you being generally judgemental and rude

              Now - yes.

              traits that will increase the probability that people will be disrespectful to you

              The saddest thing is that people IRL respect me more when I’m in this mood. Including romantic interests. And when I’m respectful, ready to believe in people and so on, it’s different.

              That’s the key actually - one doesn’t trust a dog not to eat chocolate left on the table unsupervised. One doesn’t trust friends with known errors not to err this way again. I think this is the root problem, but too lazy to elaborate.

              This second comment of yours has only further convinced me.

              You’ve assumed too much (see above) to pretend that it was my comment which convinced you of anything. You came with your opinion without any intent to change it. You got what you wanted. That, of course, reduces the value of your comments to virtually zero.

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                You have no information at all to draw anything on that.

                I do. I have the way you’re describing people afterwards. I have a lifetime of experience dealing with people who talk the exact same way about people.

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                  I do. I have the way you’re describing people afterwards.

                  That quote is self-contradictory.

                  I have a lifetime of experience dealing with people who talk the exact same way about people.

                  Your experience isn’t worth anything as an argument. What does it even mean, we all have lifetime experiences of dealing with people.

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                Your comment looks like it should be smart. But the dude you’re replying to isn’t wrong. You just sound condescending, and of this is how you talk in real life, I get why some people don’t react positively.

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                  This particular thread started about people being incorrect and arrogant to the degree that they, for example, consider correctness less important than socialization, and thus there being a niche for using the word “normies”.

                  If pointing out confident incorrectness is condescending, then so it is.

                  If you think people should treat you as being correct when you are incorrect out of wish to be perceived as more sociable - then you are wrong, tone is bearable, incorrectness just makes it waste of time.

                  You just sound condescending, and of this is how you talk in real life, I get why some people don’t react positively.

                  Actually they do react positively, because I usually communicate IRL to people who look at the meaning, not the tone, quite often smarter than me. I actually happen to be the polite one. My social problems are in a different dimension.

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                    You expect people to communicate only by interpreting meaning correctly. And that’s simply not how most people operate. Tone IS important. Socialization IS key when communcating with a lot of people. I am not saying being stubbornly incorrect is a good trait, but the fact that you think there are a lot of people who are, is probably part of your problem here.

                    Any person just wants to be treated decently, which doesn’t include getting called ‘normie’.

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          I’m a bit of that myself. Not as much about green stuff, global warming etc, but it doesn’t require much specifics to remember that there are “a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together”.

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      Ehh, I mean I don’t hate it as a term. Most of my friends are online, my hobbies mostly are too. Unlike 4channers tho I’m happy with my life, have a good job, etc. Still, I might refer to people who go hiking, watch Marvel movies, and so on as normies, or at least “normal people”.

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        In my book it’s just a more modern way to express how special you are. When most people that use the term are gamers, or adjacent, which isn’t special anymore by any stretch of the imagination. Like, if you’re someone who is hardcore into niche hobbies like freeclimbing/bouldering or building replicas of famuos buildings out of ice cream, that’s fine. But if you’re sitting at home, playing CS and shitposting on social media, come on dude…

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          Using normie as a way of feeling special or putting others down is dumb but some people just feel isolated/different.

          I feel like most people just use it to refer to people outside their clique/interests. I’m a normie to climbers and unless they love video games they are normies to me. They can’t have an in depth conversation with me about their latest climbing trip and I can’t have an in depth conversation with them about how much I fucking hate dark souls but can’t wait to get home and play it.

          If there’s an less obnoxious term you can suggest please do, I get why you hate the term.