Straight white Canadian cismale here, because that context can be important. I went to a therapist in my early-mid twenties that was alright, but it was the first one that I got. She was a good help, but never got around to some fundamental stuff, and I realize now that I wasn’t fully understood. I think we didn’t like each other, regardless she did remain professional which was cool.
Second time around, when I was 30 and really hit rock bottom, I shopped around, and found possibly the best therapist I could get for me. She was incredible. I have developed tools that can get me through anything. I feel like I understand myself at the most essential depth.
I will always advocate for therapy in any form you can get it, in whatever way is right for you. I’ve been able to help a lot of other people thanks to the help I’ve gotten. I’m not gonna lie and say that I am able to solve everything, but I do take pride in saying that I’ve genuinely helped some people at least breathe easier through their issues.
Im not trying to call you out in any way here but it’s genuinely hard for me to understand how “hit rock bottom” and “shopped around and found the best therapist I could” are not mutually exclusive things.
Please don’t take this the wrong way. But when I think “rock bottom” it’s not a situation that leads to seeking help on your own let alone having the capacity to investigate multiple potential solutions.
I guess maybe everyone has a different rock bottom?
I meant the term more as an expression, which would denote one’s personal lowest point, not necessarily how low a human being can possibly get. It might be possible to have a collectively agreed upon level of “true rock bottom,” but at a certain point I think it gets obfuscated - different circumstances and contexts might be perceived as worse or more challenging by others.
Straight white Canadian cismale here, because that context can be important. I went to a therapist in my early-mid twenties that was alright, but it was the first one that I got. She was a good help, but never got around to some fundamental stuff, and I realize now that I wasn’t fully understood. I think we didn’t like each other, regardless she did remain professional which was cool.
Second time around, when I was 30 and really hit rock bottom, I shopped around, and found possibly the best therapist I could get for me. She was incredible. I have developed tools that can get me through anything. I feel like I understand myself at the most essential depth.
I will always advocate for therapy in any form you can get it, in whatever way is right for you. I’ve been able to help a lot of other people thanks to the help I’ve gotten. I’m not gonna lie and say that I am able to solve everything, but I do take pride in saying that I’ve genuinely helped some people at least breathe easier through their issues.
Im not trying to call you out in any way here but it’s genuinely hard for me to understand how “hit rock bottom” and “shopped around and found the best therapist I could” are not mutually exclusive things.
Please don’t take this the wrong way. But when I think “rock bottom” it’s not a situation that leads to seeking help on your own let alone having the capacity to investigate multiple potential solutions.
I guess maybe everyone has a different rock bottom?
I meant the term more as an expression, which would denote one’s personal lowest point, not necessarily how low a human being can possibly get. It might be possible to have a collectively agreed upon level of “true rock bottom,” but at a certain point I think it gets obfuscated - different circumstances and contexts might be perceived as worse or more challenging by others.