I’ve never understood our societies obsession with when men lose their virginity. You see it in media all the time like in ‘The 42 year Old Virgin’ and ‘Last American Virgin’. It seems to be a bigger thing with men then women. Can any men here confirm?
Why does it matter when someone loses their virginity? If you ask me it’s no one’s business to when someone loses their v-card. People should lose it when they feel comfortable to. I hate our societies insistence that men lose it before the age of 18. Like if your an adult virgin our society sees it as a personal failing that makes you a loser. I never understood it myself. It’s frankly ridiculous.
The thing is that for most men, it’s not voluntary when they don’t ‘lose their v-card’ for a long time, it’s that they can’t find a partner. Someone who never managed to find a partner despite trying typically doesn’t exactly feel like a winner, so they tend to at least somewhat agree with the popular sentiment that older virgins are ‘losers’.
It’s true that this isn’t really other people’s business, especially not if they’re only using it to put people down instead of trying to improve things. Though this is certainly an issue on a societal level.
As much as some people hate to admit it, women have all of the (legal) power when determining when men lose their virginity (hetero relationship implied). In some ways it makes sense since women have to handle the risks and full burden of child birth.
In most civilized cultures it is expected that the men court the women. This puts men with social anxieties at a severe disadvantage.