Does it actually matter whether you flirt with someone or not in order for them to (potentially) develop feelings for you? A lot of people have told me it’s intrinsic, as in “If they like you, they like you.” So you should just treat the person you’re interested in like you would any other person.
So if it all comes down to connection and looks, doesn’t that make flirting a bit redundant?
Edit: To clarify, I see flirting as banter to make sexual/romantic intentions known.
Is chewing redundant? The little swish of a nice beverage? Flirting is the game, it’s half the fun. Sure the other parts are nourishing and wonderful too. But to flirt is to delight in such a primally human interaction.
I mean, if you don’t chew you’ll choke to death on your food, so, no it’s not redundant.
It’s only fun if it’s appreciated by the other party, though.
Same with any pair activity. Paddling a canoe is no fun if one person doesn’t like water and wants outta there ASAP!