Does it actually matter whether you flirt with someone or not in order for them to (potentially) develop feelings for you? A lot of people have told me it’s intrinsic, as in “If they like you, they like you.” So you should just treat the person you’re interested in like you would any other person.

So if it all comes down to connection and looks, doesn’t that make flirting a bit redundant?

Edit: To clarify, I see flirting as banter to make sexual/romantic intentions known.

  • Spacehooks@reddthat.comEnglish
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    23 hours ago

    I didn’t flirt with my partner at all and kept my emotions in. so we didn’t get together until like 8 months of friendship. my SO had 0 idea I had any interest until we had a moment. It overwhelmed SO and led to wanting space between us for a few months. I wonder if it would have been different if I flirted some.

      • Spacehooks@reddthat.comEnglish
        2·
        13 hours ago

        Lol i just asked and got the standard “oh, I dk” in the cheekist voice possible.

        My memory of the situation was no. I was hard friend zoned and my partner has always had zero interest in me physically. Before me i know there was zero interest in anyone beyond standard friendship. That dice roll i did to grab a kiss when I did change both our lives.