My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

  • UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works
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    8 days ago

    There’s a bit of difference between making a mistake and stabbing your partner in the back. He could have done it the right way, but he chose to do one of the most emotional hurtful things you can do.

    He betrayed family to get laid

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      7 days ago

      Point number 2. Read it again.

      As of why, we can only speculate. Sometimes a disaster is what is required to get things happening that should have been over a long time ago.

      They are living together already, so it was not only to get laid.

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          7 days ago

          Exactly. She moved in after. You are absolutely correct. 10/10 reading comprehension.

          It would be unusual if she moved in before the ex wife moved out.

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                7 days ago

                No, I misread the final sentence. I still agree with everything I said, it was just slightly out of context so I withdrew it

                But go off just being a dick

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                  7 days ago

                  Right. I’m the dick that says op should not let themselves be caught in the middle of their parents messy divorce in ways that they might regret later in life and you are the one advocating op go no contact despite us not knowing barely anything about what has been going on or why because this is your hill to show off your moral high ground and insert yourself in some drama that you are immune of consequences. Sure, dude. I’m the dick.

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                    7 days ago

                    Im not saying go no contact forever. I’ve said previously they should have their mother’s back until he can genuinely say sorry and start the healing process

                    Right now everyone here is advocating for shitting on the mother in her most vulnerable state. Because the dad is fun

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                  7 days ago

                  Yeah, I get you and I agree. I already mentioned in another comment that OP is included in point two and it is ok that they have strong feelings about this. It grinds my gears though when people on social media go full binary in driving other people’s lives into the gutter because they can project themselves as morally superior or whatever other reason. That’s me point two right there.