That, plus this guy doesn’t care about you. He probably only wants a side piece to assuage his own unhappiness, and if you’re OK with hurting a non-consenting third party (his family) for someone that doesn’t care about you, then you need to look harder at your own values.
Probably in the minority here and I’m not a fan of establishment Democrats, but his reasoning that Trump would use the shutdown to move without court interference seemed logical to me.