jahtnamas [sie/hir]

ime, it turned out that my partner is demisexual. he thought he was straight (though a bit bi-leaning with some exceptions i tease him about) but his attraction didn’t really change when i came out. he’s just attracted to me.

idk, this sounds pretty outside the binary to me.

re: the pants paragraph: are you aware of genital nullification surgery?

i think you missed the part where the damage is twenty years extant.

i mean i’ll consume fiction in short bursts (like fanfic chapter updates) but it’s very hard to focus on large paragraphs and i get annoyed that by the end i’m not absorbing the material at all. something i had subscribed to on ao3 came out with a chapter recently that used basic html colour rendering for some of the chapter’s symbolism but it clashed with my dark theme and was unreadable and i had to ask the co-author if it was okay if i used reader mode to actually see the fucking words.

also i got punished for spending too much time on the computer in my teens by having to spend time reading books. i absolutely abhor the format of physical books now. i’m an OG harry potter hater because my stepmom started me on the 4th book and i was so fucking lost on what anything was. i did end up going back and reading the first 3 and enjoying them and finally understanding the 4th, but i got halfway thru book 5 (when it was new) and i was just so over it all.

i actually hate reading now

in america

at 30 i was a demigirl, but since i turned 32 (am 35 now) i consider myself genderqueer. i was struggling with the whole idea through my late 20s however.

thank you for explaining! i’m still relatively new to actually using XMPP so i don’t really understand it all. i had gone into the kaidan chat a few weeks ago and learned that there isn’t legacy OMEMO support and that it’s low priority to implement, which i initially thought was my issue because i couldn’t decrypt a message i had sent myself from conversations on android.

i mean, dino and gajim work but something about the designs of gtk apps bother me. i think it’s the excess padding.

i cannot for the life of me figure out why kaidan doesn’t sync my chatrooms or let me join any new public ones. doesn’t even give me an error, it just doesn’t do it.

i’m not gonna pretend i know how open source governance works but this feels like a deep misunderstanding of it. what i’ve seen done over the years when shit like this happens is devs hard forking or admins migrating to similar projects that actually share their values. my instance has plans to move to piefed, for example.

aaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHH—

sorry it was so true i had to scream

any reason for the triplepost?

password managers with password generators and autofill my beloved

i promise you my partner’s family is very reasonable, we just have issues with coordinating transport.

also we were literally just at the thrift store the other day and i completely forgot to look at forks, although i nearly picked up a fruit bowl/banana hook thing but partner’s mom eventually put it back.

there’s a fork in our house, used to be part of a 4 piece set but the other 3 vanished at some point, that’s just a fork head mounted on a rounded black plastic handle. over the years this fork’s handle has become viscerally upsetting to hold as it deforms and bubbles from having sat too long in dishwater. i hate it. i wish it to be gone from our silverware collection like its ilk. i will literally go to the thrift store and pick up several all-metal pieces to replace it, just let me get rid of this one.

every time it happens i wanna beat my head against the wall, it’s genuinely infuriating

so far my setup using disroot’s searxng instance with ublacklist (already mentioned), some recommended blocklists for it, and banger for universal DDG bangs has been extremely non-frustrating (except one crashout i had when ublacklist updated with a method for adding custom search engines which forced me to write a custom entry for disroot that didn’t initially work despite it working OOB perfectly fine before that) and my preferred experience. another example of my linux user autism taking over.

but i direct most folks i know to udm14.org since they’re unwilling to give up google. :/

personally i’d want a list of hotels to pressure into being put on the military’s ‘hotels to avoid’ list (ETA: specified military)

it’s been very hard for me to focus on, especially with life kicking me in the teeth lately, but for the last 4 years or so i’ve been slowly chipping away at a “sequel” fic to infinity train book 4 that explores weird things that could happen long after you disembark the train. or rather, weird things that could happen almost immediately when min-gi speedruns to the bargaining stage of grief after ryan bleeds out from getting stabbed in a bar fight during a gig and accepts the help of a rogue morgue technician to try and resurrect him.

it’s meant to be “b-grade” horror with some comedy, gay romance (ofc), and high-concept necromantic lore… but in my head it’s mostly ghoul ryan go brrrrr.

KDE marble? it looks like you’d have to download stuff before hand, however.