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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • Swing and a miss. I decided to leave my home country because it’s broken, so after a decade of working and saving my own money, I did what I want to do. I went to a state school that gave me a full ride instead of a private school that I’d have to take loans out for, so I didn’t have any student loans holding me back and I could go back to school and get a masters in my new country. I actually just started teaching full time after training for the last couple of years.

    I just have the empathy (and vicarious experience) to understand that not everyone is as fortunate as I am. It took a lot of hard work and diligence, but also a lot of luck. I wouldn’t assume that anyone who isn’t able to immigrate to a new country and begin teaching other new immigrants the language is lazy, likely to settle, or a failure. It’s difficult and like everything worthwhile in life, requires some luck to meet a lot of preparation at the right moment.


  • I’m glad for you. It sounds like you were smart or skilled enough to be presented with opportunities to leave and had the foresight to take them and the dedication to fully benefit from them. Not everyone is or has those qualities and that’s not a moral failing.

    You overcame difficult circumstances, but that’s due to you being an exception, and whether that’s because of qualities inherent to you or luck is impossible to determine. The idea of it being luck is scary, but that doesn’t mean that everyone who doesn’t behave exactly as you did is to blame for their circumstances.

    Surely you know people from your hometown who earnestly tried, but were just too dumb to really keep up in school or with complicated conversations among friends. Do you think they would be able to achieve what you have? What about the smart kids with severe ADHD who were flaky due to no fault of their own? If so, what use is your intelligence or ingenuity?











  • I sat in a German emergency room for about eight hours total with a broken eye socket and radius for initial diagnosis and treatment a couple of years ago, and the only inquiry into my ability to manage the pain was one doctor asking if I had paracetamol at home right before I left. When I said I did, the doctor nodded and left the room.

    In fairness to them, it was a Sunday and they wanted to do a full scan of my head (it wasn’t an MRI and I don’t think it was an X-ray, but I don’t remember what it was called- it looked like an MRI machine, just giant) and I needed to have a bunch of different types of doctor check me out. I was also able to manage the pain and didn’t actually need painkillers, but I was really surprised they didn’t at least check in about it.