• 1 Post
  • 41 Comments
Joined 1 year ago
cake
Cake day: June 27th, 2023

help-circle

  • berrodeguarana@lemmy.eco.brtomemes@lemmy.worldWhat a concept!
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    26
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    edit-2
    10 months ago

    I understand finding these things funny when you are a cool, level-headed person or not in a moment of fight or flee situation, but many of us fall prey to dumb reasoning in emotional situations.

    Going slightly off-topic, but I’d wager many people have spent a lot of unnecessary money or gone to jail in the heat of the moment. And many of Sun Tzu’s or Lao Tzi’s (Tao) advice is like: “stop, breathe, and think it through mofo, stop being an impulsive idiot and paying a high price for it”





  • berrodeguarana@lemmy.eco.brtomemes@lemmy.worldTaking for granted
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    10
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    edit-2
    10 months ago

    Stupid question, wasn’t that a risky move? I mean, the way I was raised to think by my parents I can hear their voices in the back of my head if I went through a situation like this, similar to this:

    “But aren’t you worried they might hire you then fire you just out of spite for switching companies? And then what are you gonna do?”









  • I feel you.

    On your 3rd paragraph, I also have no idea why this happens, but we are not the only ones. Maybe people get the idea we became too self-centered?

    I cannot comment on you because I don’t know you, but in my case, if I were to be self-critic, I always focus too much on my career, wife, hobbies, household chores, family… friends were always the last priority on my schedule. People pick up on that quickly, idk.

    I do have some friends though who are low maintenance and with these I find its much easier to keep friends with. We can go 6 months without seeing each other and its still fun to get together.


  • I am that friend that vanished that you are describing.

    In my case, I tried talking to the friend that bothered me ( an unmedicated ADHD alcoholic mess of a friend) he told me to fuck off.

    I even stopped hanging out with my old group of friends that involved this guy that I described because it became this: male anger space to vent off, suicide jokes, complain about work, glorify alcohol, try out different types of drugs. No, thank you, I don’t want to do a live action of Rick n Morty.

    There is no talking with a group where everyone decided to stay together on a shitty decision. I tried once and they got really angry and made me the wrong one for going to the gym, waking up early, quitting alcohol, etc.

    I still keep in touch from afar and now, almost 10 years later, some of them are saying " yeah, the doctor told me to drop the alcohol", " yeah now I found the right meds for me and I aint as angry"

    Everybody goes at their own pace, but expecting other friends to stay with you during this journey is ludicrous.

    I went my way and although it hurt, sometimes its the best thing you can do for your mental health and integrity