Great idea, any specific suggestions? I used to watch alot of stand up but their content was very raunchy so it wasnt really her thing when id show her. We both enjoy bo burham even before he became famous. And lately weve been seeing clips of morgan jay that have had us giggling and quoting.
Normally Id say im sorry to hear about your situation, but you seem the defiant type. So i assume that would be taken as pitty or an insult. Instead id like to say that you and people like you are in my opinion the most genuine specimens of humanity your defiance in the face of adversity is truely an inspiration.
That being said, do you think its healthy to compare belly aches? I am not accusing you of doing so, but your words in this paragraph
There are people in far worse situations due to worse disability.
To me express the idea that “because others have it worse you should be grateful”. This to me is obviously true, but to someone deep in depression or any other dark place in their life could easily be interpreted as, “suck it up”. So when dealing with friends and family in some sort of mental spiral. I tend to heavily avoid this line of thinking. Even it is the cold truth they need. But maybe im wrong?
I don’t worry about things that are outside of my capacity to change. I cannot shape people into a tenable social situation where I can be myself, so I don’t worry about it at all.
This is probably the most helpful bit for my girlfriend (her words), but she mentioned that her social anxiety makes it impossible not to consider every single word and action of those she interacts with. How do you “deal” with not being able to change reality? I feel that ive acheived something similar, a state of neutrality towards the chaos around us. How would you go about helping someone along that path?
This is me and she cant stand it. She always says things like “how can you not care!?!”. I am very much into my hobbies and itd be nice to share that with other but… meh
Great suggestion, and a place to meet people aswell. Ill see how she feels about this. Might be something we do together, Thanks!
Great question, some of them are in other states/ countries making timing a big factor. She often feels alone for days. I will say, the quality of this group is very high. Genuine people who care about eachother. But with work and school some of them simply cant be there as much as theyd like to be.
Thank you, and your thoughts are always valid and valuable even if I or anyone might disagree. The more perspectives the better imo.
She very much agreed with your last point. but has trouble understanding the need to mask in the first place. She does not consider things like “not swearing around children or grandparents” or just being sweeter to them in general to be masking. Could you maybe explain your feelings on “being a sports fan” for example (you may actually like sports). But as someone who doesnt, I have been at events and settings where it was simply the comfortable thing to be. I wasnt lying to anyone but I definitely was asking more questions and cheering for something id normally have near zero enthusiasm for. I have trouble getting my ducks in a row to express something we seem to do so naturally.
Automatics and other weapons and explosives already require heavy tax stamps and long approval processes.
I know but they were asking specifically about liability insurance. and I summed up the total cost similarly to that of a vehicle as “maintaing a registration” sorry for the confusion.
I was considering getting a 9mm for home defense in my new location. But ive also been considering less lethal devices since most violent encounters my family members (grandpa side) have had were de-escalated by simply brandishing their weapon.
I wrote this later on in the conversation. It probably seems contradictory but, Im with you man, you cannot be too careful nowadays, but I do strongly believe all of the mentioned situations (except wildlife) do not require a weapon of the caliber i was describing in reference to the liability insurance. sometimes a less lethal option would have been completely viable options. However in the case of animal attacks such as bears, dogs, wolves and coyotes. A slighly higher caliber would be necessary hence why you often see park rangers and handlers with .45/.50 on their hip.
What would you recommend for less lethal home defense? An another user suggested a shotgun with loaded with rocksalt, which has me looking into different non lethal cartridges. This seems like the best option for me and my antigun gf. Im looking for something she could wield in a worst case senarion im not around.
I already carry a quickdraw knife (cant and shouldnt carry a switch in my state) Example of the quickdraw with no springs https://youtu.be/PfIXVvwFnQo
Im liking this, but this would still require a long discussion with the lady. Ironically i used to shoot glass marbles from a paintball gun and the stopping power on those was amazing i peirced a aluminum sheet metal shed with those. I wish theyd sell something similar but it not be a war crime to hit someone with.
Dont know if youve been to the US or know anyone here personally but guns are not as prevalent as you might think. Theyre definitely “around” but id imagine many people could go their whole life without seeing one. Obviously you have states like texas where they have an open carry day, You can see people walking around with rifles and ARs. But not including police officers, and millitary personel. I just dont see them. Your paranoia is justafied tho, we definitely see the worst of humanity often enough.
I think anything that uses real amunition would probably freak her out if i showed up home with one. Air rifles are a good idea but they are slow to pressurize and the air cartridge ones dont seem to have the needed stopping power. Great suggestions tho im going to keep looking
Nice, my grandpa is a gunsmith. I met alot of really nice people through his buisness. I guess that gave me a unique perspective on this debate. Being from north east USA not many people ive spoken to have aligned with me.
Congrats on the purchases I was considering getting a 9mm for home defense in my new location. But ive also been considering less lethal devices since most violent encounters my family members (grandpa side) have had were de-escalated by simply brandishing their weapon. Also my SO is very anti-gun Id want something even shed feel safe to have around or in the worst possible case use.
Absolutely, and like sports cars and trucks having higher costs. I believe single fire, burst action, and shotguns would have a lower cost than fully automatic or heavier caliber weapons would. Its relative destructive power would determine its cost to maintain a registration.
They are luxury items after all, no person really “needs” a weapon. Even with government tyrany, molotovs, home made liberator pistols, and the killdozer come to mind as more than viable alternatives.
The shift in public perception on weapon ownership when they see actual tyrany in america is very interesting. Ive been 100% pro gun and have gotten so much backlash from family and friends for being so. I dont even own a gun and to me it has been obvious that the government and media were using mass shootings (not actually commiting them as far as we know) to disarm the people.
There are and have always been such a large number of safe, moral, and sane gun owners in this country. Normal people who target practice, hunt, shoot competatively, design guns, modify them, defend their homes, study weapon history, or even just put them on display. It baffles me that anyone could be so against normal hard working americans doing no harm whatsoever.
Not a single person I spoke with was ever against owning a car when I brought it up. I was always given the same “its not the same thing”. The common denominators in vehicular violence and gun violence are mental health, education, and financial status. I dont want to compare numbers on how many people are killed in either situation because it does not matter. Human lives are lost everyday needlessly to both of these. But only guns get talked about.
Curious to know if you or anyone else have recently become pro gun, or have you always felt this way?
Its so accurate… I hate it.
This is generally how i get a healthy dose of fiber in my diet
Cutting burger with a skill saw
sorry for the yt short couldnt find the original
I also enjoy black licorice but, I also enjoy lemons jalapenos and sawdust on occasion. So i might just be an anomoly.
My headcannon was always that they were action figures. The episode where they all go on the surface shows all of the characters as puppets
so in my head all of the characters are real items that are being animated by some sort of undersea magic.
I used the plasma-meta package and to be sure I just now used arch-chroot on a flashdrive and removed plasma entirely. Cleared pacman with -Scc and then reinstalled plasma-meta and all its dependencies.
Also breeze-gtk and oxygen-gtk were the only themes in the long list of dependencies. Maybe they removed them to shorten install times and shrink the size of the DE install?
Youre comment is greatly appreciated. it also gave me an idea. Im next going to install downgrade and check if the dependencies change to add more themes in a previous version.
I could also be crazy and manually installed a bunch of themes one night. but i barely put any work into the look and feel of the DE so im almost 99% sure this is not the case
Update this did not work downgrading breaks dependencies and will not let me since force was depreciated…
So in essence you are going to teach your child to be a free thinker, which is an ideology. When another child aproaches your child with the classic “do you believe in jesus?” Your child will say “who?” Hear out the other and make a decision in that moment.
If you had set up your child to be unconvinced of claims without facts. Youve groomed an athiest. Its not directly intentional but you 100% groomed your kid into a particular manner of thinking.
Everyone does this its unavoidable. Even if you never spoke a word to your child. Theyd pick up your mannerisms and beliefs by simple mirrorism.
Obviously grooming has negative connotations which is what i assume you take issue with. but the word can be and has been used innocuously such as this example from dictionary.com
DuBois and Dickerson weren’t necessarily groomed for this job, a change from how evening anchors were selected in the past. — Brian Steinberg, Variety, 2 Apr. 2025
I see, sorry for misinterpreting your words, reading back its obvious what you were trying to convey. Your perspective is much appreciated. Yours and everyones comments have been super productive in our converstation trying to work through this today.