It’s been a year and I still deadname myself when I am frustrated. You’ll get there! It was such a good moment for me when the gendered language flipped in my head and started saying some things “right”(like how I wanted to be a voice actress instead of a voice actor). You’ve been calling yourself a guy for as long as you can remember, and it’s all new(ish)! Give yourself grace!

As a minneapolite, I would have to recommend Minneapolis! I’ve seen very little in the way of transphobia, I love my doctors, my kids like their doctors, they like their schools, all in all, moving to Minnesota was the best decision I’ve made!

Unfortunately, it’s quite hard to expat from the US. I’ve looked into it myself, and, basically, if you aren’t some kind of skilled labor, good luck.

A calzone

Honey, this is your depression acting up again. Talk to your therapist, please. We can’t give you the help you need. You are beautiful and loved, and please, take some time for self care. It does wonders for ones mental health.

And what does that mean?

In lay terms, without referring to graphics, what does that mean? ELI5, please? People keep saying left and right like it means something.

The circus is the US. The ringmaster is in DC. We all live in the circus, surrounded by clowns and lions, but if you set the tarp on fire, we all burn. We need a new circus.

And yet, it wasn’t explained how Democrats are conservatives, whatever that means. I just hear Republicans are conservative, now this one rando is saying Dems are conservative, what does that even mean, anymore? What does democrat or republican mean if they are being accused of being the same? How are they the same?

Elaborate, please? How are Democrats Republicans, and if they aren’t, what is the difference? I genuinely don’t understand.

Why? Shit floats.

How well do the employees work when they don’t eat cuz they can’t afford to?

Here’s the thing… Feeling sexy is, well, hot. Feeling good about yourself, can elicit a physical response. It isn’t uncommon to get an erection or feel aroused when you feel good about yourself, and euphoria can make you feel very good about yourself.

If you haven’t yet, take a look at genderdysphoia.fyi

It’s a pretty good read, going through the history and science of gender dysphoria/transgender/two spirit/all that stuff. Good luck on your journey!

While I consider dude a gender neutral term, if someone asked me to stop calling them dude, I would, as it is respectful to them.

At the same time, this douchebag wants to specifically target kids who are playing pretend to make their miserable lives bearable, just to distract from real issues like trans bills, don’t say gay, and governmental corruption.

Did you know: Puberty blockers cause ZERO harm to children, and to reverse the effects, which will allow puberty to continue its course, just stop the medicine!

This adolescent person that is nearly the age of majority will now have to suffer anxiety, body image issues, potential suicidal and self-harm ideation, and general misery, because the a person decided that what this other person was doing for self care, and to improve their mental health, was wrong. I’m so glad these lawmakers with NO BIAS and MEDICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL KNOWLEDGE are making laws, that are obviously not for any agenda and hurting nobody in particular, because trans people like me aren’t actually real people and shouldn’t be allowed to be comfortable in their own body.

What do you mean “excuses to permit yourself to date?” Have you just… not have had therapy for your abusive nature? How do you deal with your “idea of having dominance” in public/at work? You wanted to be dominant over girls when you were, like, 4?

In short, what?

I have recently discovered an invention. It covers blemishes, wrinkles, and has been known to at least one person to help with self-confidence. I call it “makeup.”

Joking aside, I’m starting to find that incorporating makeup into my morning routine helps with my self-image and confidence. And a little goes a long way! A bit of foundation or concealer, some eyeshadow, some blush, a touch of lipstick, and in 20 or so minutes, you’ll look fabulous! I’ve only applied it to myself a few times, but getting some help from my kids and some new friends has helped me a lot!

If you aren’t comfortable with makeup yet, I suggest finding a few trusted friends to paint you up and give you some pointers, if you haven’t already!

I’m sorry you feel so unsafe you feel the need to carry a weapon. I’m thankful enough that the only transphobia I’ve encountered is from my family, and maybe mild transphobia (intentional misgendering) from some customers and a manager.

My mom wanted to bring my grandmother over the other day to “play board games,” but it felt weird. I declined, she wanted to talk, I felt like nothing has changed.

She makes me feel emotionally unsafe, I realized. With her difficulty accepting my children for years, and now me, it is making it very difficult for me to want to try to repair our relationship. Her husband has banned me from her house, cuz I said her actions were that of a bad parent and person.

All this word vomit/salad to say, I relate. At least to difficulties from your family. All I can say, is I think my mom and yours would probably be fast friends.

Take a break from them if you need to, clear your head. I’m happy for you that your at-home family has been so supportive! Good luck.

Today I learned a thing about myself. It’s probably why I get so locked down, waiting for some scheduled event. Like if I have a thing at 3 pm, I can’t start anything else, cuz I might leave it half done.

Or wanting to start things like a Pathfinder campaign with my kids or game dev. I don’t know how to start.