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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • You shouldn’t need to constantly defend yourself. The most important persons opinion on you, is you. Who do you want to be, how do you want to act? If x decision happens, was it the best decision you could make at the time with the information you have? If so, good call. Even if in hindsight it was wrong, no one can see the future.

    If you constantly have to defend yourself, do you have toxic people in your life? Is the criticism aimed at you for your benefit or theirs? If theirs, learn to take a step back.

    Rather than defending yourself which drags you into the mud with them, deflect it away. “If you say so.” “I’m sorry you feel that way”. There is a book called When I Say No, I feel Guilty, and it’s great at teaching you practical ways to resist other manipulation etc.

    Most importantly, if you wouldn’t change your decisions, take comfort and pride in them. If you make a mistake, don’t feel guilty, think how you’d do things differently next time. How you can learn from it. Guilt is wasted energy, redemption is much more positive way to channel things. “Well, I did this and maybe I wronged x, one thing I could do to improve things for person is this”.

    I wish you luck on building yourself up, one step at a time. At your own time. Bad days happen and it’s OK, tomorrow is a new day. A new opportunity to change and improve things for your self.