• Liz@midwest.social
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      I’ve argued with people who claimed being overweight isn’t bad for your health. It’s not a common position, but it’s not exactly a strawman either. It’s more like focusing on the crazies.

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        It kinda becomes a strawman when the meme presents “healthy at every size” people as the average “body positivity” person.

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          *on Twitter

          The meme says on Twitter, the place you can find every extreme and shitty opinion blasted loud and proud

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            Yes, the meme presents “healthy at every size” people as the average “body positivity” person… on twitter

            Obviously you can find any poor opinion on twitter, but it is still strawmanning body positivity as HAES… on twitter

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              You will also notice the meme shows a sponge who lives in a pineapple under the sea, which is simply impossible.

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                What an intellectually dishonest reply. “It’s just a meme, it can’t have any meaning!” despite the fact that clearly everyone in the comments is able to understand and discuss the meaning.

                How cowardly do you have to be to hide from simply saying you agree with meme.

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                  Naw I was getting at how nit picky everyone was getting.

                  But damn, that’s wild that you went straight for intellectual dishonesty as an attack and then pull the coward card. Really escalated that quickly.

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          The subtle rephrasing of “health at every size” as “healthy at every size” also doesn’t help.

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            Does that subtle rephrasing even matter to people who think both are trash?

            And it doesn’t seem to have worked very well anyway since “health” consistently outranks “healthy”

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              Not to the people who are just fatphobic, but it definitely sows confusions. I’ve cleared it up with way too many people offline and on for it be just a rare misunderstanding.

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        But the nature of straw man arguments is that since you are not citing someone who’s actually making that argument, there’s also not any way to refute it. “Somene somewhere is making a bad argument” doesn’t really mean anything. (What’s extra ironic is that this is an ad hominem attack against no one in particular)

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          Its not a strawman unles the bad argument is being misrepresented. Just because you don’t care to look for examples for fear of what you may find doesn’t mean that anyone who hasn’t thrown them at you up-front is engaging in a logical fallacy.

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            It’s a straw man because the meme references the entire body positivity movement (on Twitter), while the statement it refutes is only argued by a select few.

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            Read the meme again. “Explaining why weighting (sp) 300 pounds is healthier than every other lifestyle”. Is someone actually arguing it’s healthier than literally every other lifestyle? Are they doing it without qualifications? Did they not use some sort of logic to support their position? Or is the maker of this meme making an overly simplistic representation of an imagined argument someone might make, specifically chosen because it’s easy to refute? That’s what a strawman argument is. And they’re not even using good logic to argue against this fictional claim!

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              That being said,

              Is someone actually arguing it’s healthier than literally every other lifestyle?

              yes, and

              Are they doing it without qualifications? Did they not use some sort of logic to support their position?

              you’re way overestimating how much thought people put into making memes lol

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        That argument is likely a distortion of the medical argument which goes something like, “People who are overweight by the medical definition of BMI between 25 and 30 are not necessarily unhealthy. There are some circumstances such as being an athlete or genetics that are associated with denser body compositions. BMI is a crude tool that is useful for some things but should not be used on its own to indicate health status.”

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          BMI isn’t science. Its an almost 200 year old equation that was arbitrarily fitted to data. There is no go reason square ones height except that it fit the data. The cutoffs are arbitrary and, at least in the US, shifted in 1997.

          And there is a growing body of evidence showing it’s not accurate for many cases in addition to the one you provided.

          We have better indirect measure and far better direct measures for assessing disease progression and likelihood of disease development. Getting rid of BMI won’t stop fat shaming, but I hope it gives people pause.

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            I completely agree, we need to move on from BMI. But it’s a bit silly to say it’s BMI isn’t science when it’s been used for the entirety of modern health sciences. People would be shocked by how many crude, yet useful enough measures that health sciences use even today. And it’s notoriously slow/stubborn in adopting the best tools for many methods. Still, humanity has continued to make scientific progress with them.

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              Show me the science in the particulars and I’m happy to change my mind. Its widespread use in the modern medical system doesn’t make it scientific. We continue to use generally true ideas such as drink water and then wrench them into prescriptive positions like drink 8 cups of water per day. Literally no science to support that claim.

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                What science would change your mind? There’s never going to be a magical cutoff number for cholesterol or height or weight that separates healthy and not healthy.

                Heuristics are useful tools and sometimes that’s the best you get. You need water to live, clogged arteries cause heart attacks, insulin resistance leads to diabetes. Exactly how much of any given thing causes bad outcomes is going to vary case by case, but doesn’t negate trends.

                I say all this as a former wannabe body builder who hasn’t had a BMI under 25 in about 20 years, but I still know a BMI of 60 or 80 is no good.

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                  I though I was clear about this, but I’ll reiterate.

                  1. That the heuristic is accurate.
                  2. That the heuristic is more accurate than other easily applied heuristics.
                  3. That when the heuristic makes categories, the categories are backed by studies. These studies would show a statistical increase for specific health outcomes above this cutoff. That line would be tested relative to other proximal lines.
                  4. These heuristics would include different recommendations for different populations such as race, biological sex, and age.

                  A better alternative, as I had previously linked to, would be abdominal fat as measured at the waist. Easy heuristic and closely correlated to CVD.

                  All of what you say is true, but you’re not address my particular issues.

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                I was talking about how widespread BMI is used in health sciences, I.e. everything from basic physiology to clinical trials to program evaluation to epidemiology. This is different from medical practice, e.g. family doctor taking your BMI. Whether it makes for good science or not, it’s use makes it part of science and replacing outdated tools is part of the broader scientific process–that doesn’t make the tools “not science”.

                You’re asking about “accuracy” which is a good question, as well as “precision”. However in health sciences we usually evaluate such measures more thoroughly with similar concepts of validity (construct and discriminant) and reliability; you’ll also see sensitivity in the literature but it’s a kind of discriminant validity.

                So if you do your own search using “BMI” and these terms on PubMed or even Google Scholar, you will find a range or scientific evidence. Most will say BMI is not good but not terrible, even good in some specific contexts. You will also find lots of evidence of how BMI is associated with other health indicators and health outcomes. I’m not going to spend an hour collating this for you. “Review” is also a useful search term. You seem smart enough to do it if you really want it. In any case, the argument is moot because we agree BMI should be replaced.

                Edit: okay I was curious comparing BMI to WtHR and actually found a couple cherry-picked examples that might be interesting for you

                https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6643/8/8/512

                https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2405457723021642

                https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23775352/

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                  I appreciate the systematic review and meta-analysis. It’s a good starting statement and if I worked with children, I would look at the paper more closely. As a whole, these studies don’t address the most at risk groups with a high level of evidence. Perhaps that last paper will be part of a meta-analysis that gives clearer evidence of BMI indicating CVD in children. This would be great.

                  I focus on medical practices because it’s my area of expertise and where I do my work. So I see the negative effects of people’s conceptions around weight, BMI, obesity, and how difficult it is to change even with the best applied efforts. I wrote my initial response when I saw an avalanche of self-righteous, care trolling with vague allusion to science and medicine with a level of certainty that isn’t warranted. At best, I was being confrontationally polemical, at worst, I lack nuance or sensitivity to work in the field.

                  The ease at which people fat shame and delude themselves that they are helping is astounding. I was a little surprised to see it on Lemmy.

                  Admittedly, my statistical training isn’t the best, but I appreciate the role it plays in making sense of large datasets. Still, I appreciate the reminder to dive deeper into how statistics are used in observational studies. For me, at least, I wish that much of this was done before the wide deployment of BMI in the populous. I’m not saying that fat-shaming wouldn’t continue, but there doesn’t need to be poorly applied scientific ammunition either.

                  PS. You might like this study that examined some of the boundaries for BMI.

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    Fat people: I should be able to get medical care beyond being told “you should lose weight”.

    Dummies like OP: 😡

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      But what if the medical care is loosing weight?

      What do you expect them to do when a 160kg dude is rolled into the ICU with his third heart attack of the month? A transplant?

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        Every time people talk about this, they always envision the most morbidly obese example that they can think of, when we’re really just talking about the average slightly overweight/obese people. Those people often have their actual medical needs ignored by doctors and are given “lose weight” as a cure all. There are literally hundreds of millions of people who experience this.

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          Because in a lot of ways “lose weight” really is a cure all, and it’s not some grand mystery as to why people gain weight.

          It isn’t a doctors job to drug the people up so they don’t have to live a healthy lifestyle. Most people aren’t told too lose weight because they go to the doctor to lose weight, they’re told to lose weight when they go to the doctors for the litany of health affects surrounding obesity.

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          Lose weight often IS the cure-all as obesity is clearly linked to a litany of health issues.

          Do you want to treat the symptom or the cause? Folks can take pain killers for their knees, but the issue here is often that the knees are overloaded with too much weight.

          Idk much about ozempic, but before that, “Lose weight” was rough to hear because a doctor can’t wave a magic wand to fix the patients problems - the patient had to work to fix things. And if you’re honestly putting in the work, eating a healthy diet and exercising and you’re still struggling with weight, then I feel for you, because that suggests there’s a hormonal or other medical cause for the obesity, that the doc needs to go over. However I am certain that the majority of the hundreds of millions of people you cite don’t.

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            Studies show there isn’t an actual diet people can go on to lose weight and keep it off. The diet just doesn’t exist for the vast majority of people. People gain the weight back almost 100% of the time. The only thing you can do is prevent the weight gain in the first place, which isn’t that simple given our lack of walkable cities, cheap food being the least healthy etc

            Given how seriously bad doctors say obesity is, I don’t understand why people are mad at fat people for taking ozempic.

            Another thing to be mad about: the most expensive component of the ozempic shots is the plastic container it comes in.

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              I’d appreciate it if you can link some examples of those studies.

              When I say “eat a healthy diet”, I don’t mean go on keto. I mean have some fruits and vegetables, and try to limit processed food intake.

              EDIT: like I said, I don’t know much about ozempic so I have nothing to contribute to that end of the conversation, sorry.

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                Two studies (each reviewing a number of other studies) and an article putting it in lay terms:

                "He and others have estimated that for every two pounds of weight you lose, your metabolism slows by about 25 calories per day, and your appetite increases by about 95 calories per day. So in other words, if you lose 20 pounds, your body will burn roughly 250 calories less each day while craving about 950 calories more.

                To maintain your weight loss through dieting over time, you’ll have to continue eating less while resisting a rising appetite and slower metabolism, which is “increasingly difficult,” Dr. Schur said.

                The drive to eat more is so strong because our brains “sense that our energy stores are being depleted,” she added, and “that’s a threat to our survival.”"

                So diets mostly all work in the short term, but people just return to their top weight over time. Your body is always trying to get you back to your top weight.

                https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32238384/

                https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/obr.12949

                https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/11/well/eat/dieting-weight-loss.html

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              Such a diet exists. It’s called eating less meat and sugar.

              And don’t get me started on only unhealthy junk being cheap. Not only have all fast food chains hiked up their prices to near uncompetitive levels, but even fruit and veggies are dirt cheap in America. Europeans pay far more, especially when comparing PPP, than Americans, when it comes to healthy eating. Yet they manage.

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                I’m interested that you suggested “less meat and sugar”. I don’t think I’ve seen anyone claim protein to be a major contributor to obesity in the last 40 years. I usually see sugars and carbs as the main culprits. Is there some new info I should read about?

                I (luckily) have always had my weight and nutrition under good control, so I’m more interested for the sake of knowledge.

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                  Meat is just so calorie dense that even switching to carbs is a massive upgrade.

                  The carbs they talk about are simple carbs, with high glycemic indexes. Something like whole wheat is going to be a lot healthier for your health than white rice.

                  Meat may also promote consumption of alcohol, which isn’t great for weight loss.

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          when we’re really just talking about the average slightly overweight/obese people

          Are we though?

          I think the discussions here are mostly coming down to what you think you’re arguing about. Because there certainly are some crazy claims made by the body positivity movement as well. Even if the core message (“your dignity as a human is not bound to your body shape”) is something basically everyone can agree on.

          So the big majorities on both sides argue against the other side based on some fringe opinions. And since one rarely explains their position in detail on the Internet neither side is aware that they actually have a lot of common ground.

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            My position is literally:

            -A person loses no humanity or respectibility by being overweight. Overweight people are still people.

            • Overweight people deserve to have their concerns actually heard. Doctors often literally will not investigate some problems that overweight people ask about beyond “oh you should lose weight.” For some concerns, that may be a reasonable diagnosis, but there are plenty of actual medical concerns that are ignored by doctors in fat people.

            • Shame largely does not work to get people to lose weight. For the people where it does work, it definitely doesn’t do it in a healthy way, and for most people it just makes losing weight harder. (I’ve seen a lot of people justify being shitty to overweight people because they think they need to feel shame all the time to change).

            That’s it. It’s literally “treat people like people and actually listen to their concerns.”

            Honestly, I’m pretty surprised that Lemmy already seems to have a bit of the “fat people hate” energy. People have a very specific image of a “fat person” in their head that they imagine when this stuff comes up, but all I’m saying is that people who are overweight sometimes have concerns that aren’t addressed by just losing weight, and those concerns are often dismissed because we value and respect fat people much less than skinny people.

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      Even on shows like My 600 lb life, they have to actually lose weight and maintain a healthy diet for months before they’re considered for Liposuction and other surgeries.

      Sure, that care should be available, but you have to lose the weight first and maintain healthy habits. There’s no excuse for it.

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        There’s more to it than just “develop healthy habits” though. There are psychological reasons one could have for overeating like having eating disorders or using food to treat depression which could require psychiatric assistance. My brother died at 600+ lbs after breaking two lap bands. He required some serious intervention, but we couldn’t afford what he needed, he was homeless and he couldn’t hold down a job, so he died instead.

        Mind you, being overweight wasn’t the only cause for his death. He was eating very unhealthy foods because they were a cheaper means to fill himself up since his stomach was huge. His severe ADHD prevented him from being able to hold down a job despite being a fairly intelligent person.

        He did some shitty things in his life, so don’t give too much sympathy, but in retrospect doing something to help his ADHD early on could have helped to prevent the train wreck that became his life. Maybe that would have helped him do better in school, be better to our parents, be able to hold down a job, etc. which could have prevented overeating to treat his depression.

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          I get that, I really do. Mental health is a really really important part of being healthy.

          But at the end of the day, eating less is the solution to the weight loss. Mental healthcare is the solution to mental health problems. They’re interconnected, but one can be solved independent of the other. And I do realize that it’s difficult.

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            Ok but also doing something very difficult at the best of times is particularly difficult while also struggling with mental health issues. And beyond that even if you succeed you’re not unlikely to swing hard the other way. People with serious mental health issues that manage to lose a lot of weight have a nasty habit of doing so using an eating disorder.

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            But at the end of the day, eating less is the solution to the weight loss

            And abstinence is the solution to unwanted pregnancies and STDs. The solution to alcoholism and all other drug addictions? Stop taking drugs/drinking.

            Did I just provide medical advice? Or did I just make it clear that I don’t know anything about sex education and drug addictions? I think it’s the latter, and I think you’re making similar arguments wrt fat people.

            You’re flattening the realities of life, and needlessly stigmatizing and moralizing eating . for every fat person you save with this gospel, there’s many more anorexic people absorbing the same message.

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        That’s not what they’re talking about. Doctors will attribute anything they can to your weight instead of actually testing and treating you. There are a lot of problems with being over weight but there’s also legitimate illnesses being missed.

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        I’m just shocked Lemmy hasn’t gone full incel. The TwoX sub some poor hopeful tried to start looked like that meme of Jerrys talking to each other.

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          I do see the incels rear their heads from time to time.

          I had to close out of a thread regarding how FGM was on the rise again in a country in Africa, and I saw users likening it to male circumcision.

          There was (presumably) a chick in the comments trying to explain why they’re not one in the same, and she was getting heavily down voted.

          Like, yes, I think a lot of Lemmy users are against male circumcision as well (myself included), but it is NOT the same.

          My circumcised husband can still orgasm, most women will not be able to at all without clitoral stimulation. It takes the pleasure out of sex for us and makes us simple brood mares.

          And I’m always like “Jesus, this line of thinking is prevalent in a lefty place like Lemmy? No fucking wonder things like ‘Fresh&Fit’ are taking the youth by storm.”

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            Exactly. Circumcision is bad. It’s not a penectomy which is essentially what fgm usually is basically

            Also unrelated, but you have a wonderful username

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              Yes! I at first was trying to look at everything through the lens of “Maybe they just don’t know, maybe this is an education moment.” But the more and more I saw the user attempting to explain the difference between what parts are removed, the more and more people were making fun of them/downvoting them.

              Also, thank you! I’m pretty partial to yours as well!

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                Yeah, like I’ve been opposed to male circumcision my whole life, ever since my mom taught me why she opposed it as a young child in the 90s. But objectively one is bad and the other is obviously worse unless you don’t consider women being unable to experience sexual pleasure to be worse than men having reduced sexual pleasure. Like that’s the difference here.

                And like, I get being defensive about opposing male circumcision. I’ve been treated like a radical and a body shamer for it. But when we acknowledge that FGM as it is practiced in locations like Gambia is worse we aren’t saying that male circumcision is fine or that we don’t oppose it. We also shouldn’t make discussions about either about the other.

                But yeah Lemmy is way more progressive and feminist than a network like it would’ve been even 10 years ago, but also there’s definitely an mra portion to it and I have to remind myself not to attempt to play chess with the pigeons.

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          Lemmy has mostly tech savvy people, which are either oldschool incel or LGBT+. There’s some regular people but those two demographics are quite predominant in the tech world, you know, the geeky bullied people trope and all.

          In this case I’d say that since regular people side with lgtb usually, the incels are shut down quite fast.

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      I mean it didn’t take long for the new atheist types to spawn, or the classic neolibs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if more dookie ends up flooding the site. I’ve definitely seen some MRA shit here already. Any comic or meme underneath like, a woman’s experience being recounted, is sure to be full of it, and if you ever bring up disparities in men’s and women’s sexual assault, that’s also a pretty easy trigger.

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    I say, as I slowly roll over a 5 year old in my four door f150 “kids just don’t exercise anymore, they just stay in their houses and look at their phone” then I end my tiktok video.

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    I wonder how long until lemmy.world goes mask-off full maga. And I wonder how many people will be surprised by it.

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        I’m certainly not seeing that. Could be I’m missing those posts. Could also be some, such as yourself, are expecting to see something and applying a label to explain it.

        Sometimes a meme is just a meme.

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          What? Sorry, I couldn’t hear you with your head in the sand.

          Sometimes a meme is just a meme.

          It’s just a meme bro. It’s just a prank dude. It’s just a joke mate.

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    I’m about the Buddy positivity movement…

    Meanie-meanie-meanie-meanie~! (Say what?!)

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    Diets don’t work for me. I get hungry before bed time. My body doesn’t tolerate healthy foods. I can’t lose weight because I don’t have time to make it my No1 priority. Losing weight isn’t as simple as “just eating less” , , ,

    I love fat people excuses, just admit that you’d rather have an unhealthy body than put the effort and self control in to gaining a healthy one. I’ve heard literally every imaginable excuse except “I’m being force fed!”

    Some overweight people pretend that they are happy at their size, but give them a magic button that will turn their body fit and healthy in an instant and see how many of them refuse to press it. They literally can’t not just delay the gratification of excess food now in return for a healthy body that could months or years away.

    Whilst I do have sympathy for people with severe medical or mental issues which are a primary cause for their excess weight, these causes are just not applicable for the vast majority of obese people.

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      As an overweight person, I mostly agree. I just think there are way more people with mental issues than you seem to think.

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        I think anyone addicted to the dopamine rush of food to the point they are an unhealthy weight has a mental issue, same as someone addicted to tobacco, alcohol, or any drug where overuse is unhealthy. It’s incredibly common, it’s just that obesity seems to be the most outwardly visible of those addictions and therefore gets shamed more. I don’t think shaming people into quitting an addiction is an effective strategy, but I also don’t believe affirming their choices with misinformation is favorable either. I think promoting awareness and giving compassionate support are the only real effective strategies, and while I think that’s commonly understood and used by most caring people, that doesn’t seem to be a viewpoint that gets attention on the Internet.

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          Finally someone with a point of view that is not incredibly bigoted.

          I’d just add that we shouldn’t be tricked by social media. Obese people, by and large, know all too well how being obese is a health condition. Not a lot of people are delusional enough to believe that being obese is worth celebrating, unless they’re on Facetagram.

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        Not to mention the fact that mental health issues are not handled well by the general public at all. I have seen so much vitriol, dismissal, and skepticism towards anyone who talks about their mental health journey. And in my experience those who will shame me for being overweight will often insinuate that I made up my diagnoses or doctor shopped until I got what I wanted. You really can’t win for losing.

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      I don’t really understand why people get so aggro like this and start fat shaming. Like, do you react this way whenever someone smokes cigarettes or drinks alcohol? It’s other people’s bodies. I have honestly never heard anyone say these excuses. I normally see fat people shaming and beating up on themselves. This kind of shit makes them feel like it’s not even okay to be seen because of this shit. Shame is not the answer.

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        …what? People shame others for drinking and smoking all the time. Bad example.

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        What are you on about? We’ve literally kicked smokers out of public spaces and increased their insurance rates. Alcohol in excess will also get thrown in jail.

        It’s not shaming anyone, to point out when something is objectively unhealthy. No-one is going around hounding people for eating an extra slice of pizza or having a drink with dinner.

        But,when you are eating a whole pizza a day or are drunk at 8am people should point out that hey maybe that’s not the way to go.

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        I smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol. I’m an unhealthy addict. Obesity is a disease that shouldn’t be shamed, like any other addiction/ condition. It should definitely be acknowledged/ treated, though.

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          Obesity is a disease

          To imply that every obese person is “food addicted” is actually just another excuse, this might come as a suprise, but skinny people like to eat too! Just as the people at the pub on Friday and Saturday night are not necessarily addicted to alcohol. It’s only really true in a minority of cases.

          Not being willing to say, “no I’ve eaten enough, I don’t want dessert” is not proof of an addiction, it’s just proof that you value your health less than a cake.

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            Do you also blame people with anorexia for not eating enough?

            The obese people I know all had childhood abuse, neglect, or CSA or something else going on. Eating is a maladaptive coping mechanism just like how some CSA survivors act out in various ways.

            Other people have different life experiences than you.

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              I don’t blame anyone for the manifestations of any severe medical or mental issues that they might have and I have already stated as such.

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        Most smokers I know are well aware of how unhealthy their habit is, and would quit if it was easy. They don’t make excuses.

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        Are there advocates telling people it’s okay and healthy to smoke? Oh, it’s universally shit on with more laws every day on who can smoke?

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          We really ought to be passing laws to combat obesity, like adding a tax on unhealthy food and making walking and biking more attractive transportation options.

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            Or you could mind your own business and let those people pay for their additional health care costs. But that’s not going to gain any traction.

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              Well, but even in the capitalist hellscape of America where we get blatantly overcharged for healthcare, we still largely use a mix of private and public insurance. Even if I didn’t care about other people or want them to have long and healthy lives for its own sake, I would still want want them to be healthy because my insurance rate is tied to the overall cost of healthcare, which is higher thanks to people being unhealthy. This is an insane way of thinking, and I want everyone to be healthy for the intrinsic benefits, but even if I were to be completely selfish, well, they’re costing me money.

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                I’m not fan of our healthcare. But if you decouple and simplify the rates it sounds like you still want to force what’s important to you on others and I disagree strongly.

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                  Force would mean throwing them in fatty prison or something ridiculous. People can do what they want, I’m still going to encourage them to get healthy. I have yet to talk to someone who regretted getting their weight under control, even those who used to claim they were fine with being overweight. Think of it like just encouraging exercise independent of weight (which is also good for you, regardless of mass status). I’m not going to force anyone into a lap pool, but I will tell them about how good exercise is for you.

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              You actually bring up an interesting point.

              Their health care costs are our healthcare costs. The way insurance works, healthy people subsidize unhealthy people’s healthcare.

              Additionally, many hospitals around America are finding that they have to buy specialized, expensive equipment just to transport and handle bariatric folks. In a few locales, they’re charging folks that need this specialized equipment more, but my guess is in many others the cost is once again subsidized by the general population.

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                  ACA prohibits charging people more for insurance based on their weight, so those costs are paid for by the public.

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        I’m not shaming all fat people. Just the ones that only make excuses for their weight or pretend that it is healthy.

        I couldn’t be prouder or more supportive of an overweight person that decides enough is enough, takes ownership of their body, that they’re going to lose weight and stick with it until they reach their goal.

        To use your analogy, I don’t care if someone drinks or smokes, but if they start pretending that it’s not a choice they make it or that it’s healthy, then yh, that’s a problem and I don’t think it’s a bad thing to call them out for that.

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        If shame was the answer, nobody would still be obese. There is always an underlying cause, and it isn’t because of a character flaw. Often people use food as a maladaptive way of coping with emotional abuse or neglect, SA, or other things.

        It’s another example of people being shallow, self-righteous assholes with a narrow perspective and no willingness to understand or empathize with fellow humans.

        Sort of like how some people are anti-trans (usually anti MtF trans). Often these people are so pathetic they have to bash others to feel better about themselves. It’s the same mentality as blaming poor people for not having more money. Or dismissing drug addicts as subhuman garbage rather than fucked up people with a disease.

        This kind of shit makes them feel like it’s not even okay to be seen because of this shit.

        That’s exactly their intent. They don’t see fat people as equally human. They see them as people who aren’t as good as they are and they would just as soon fat people “go away”.

        People born on third base thinking they hit a triple. As if having well adjusted parents and not having a mental disorder and not experiencing CSA and so on was somehow all their own doing and not just the luck of the draw.

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        People love to seek flaws in others so that they have to see their own flaws. Or shame others because they can’t fathom that those are happy how they are while the shamers are constrained in their own thinking.

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      I was once 300 pounds. If you can’t eat healthy foods just fast. Be hungry. Make it your #1 priority. Yes, some of these comments are mean, but your stance that healthy foods are intolerable seems ridiculous.