I am seeing a few negative comments on here and it’s baffling. It’s a post about learning that your issues had something to do with a mental health disorder. No where in this post did it say my coworkers should fix it. My partner and friends and family need to be involved deeply in my health care. (Though part of my journey was talking to those people and asking them to point out things about my behavior I didn’t think about or realize might be part of ADHD)

When I first learned I had ADHD I was sort of baffled and lost. I couldn’t see how it got missed and it felt like someone should have noticed but no one did and I am still in the process of unpacking years of self doubt and terrible thoughts. Part of that process is realizing why people may not have noticed, or why you might not have noticed. Hell had a friend not asked me if I had ever been tested I wouldn’t have even considered asking a professional.

This point doesn’t read as blaming the people around them so much as grief at learning late. Grief at not reaching out sooner. Maybe some grief at someone not simply saying hey you okay? But it doesn’t read to me as blaming anyone just sadness.