• blahsay@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Oh man discovery. It always seemed like it was written by that guy who was crying and screaming for people to leave Brittney alone.

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            9 months ago

            I uh, looked it up, and I see why there was confusion. She’s Trans

            • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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              9 months ago

              Is she really?

              I actually didn’t know. The difference seemed trivial to me, and it still does. It really doesn’t change their message or anything.

              It never bothered me at all, nevermind bothering me enough to dig into information about them to figure it out; regardless, that’s a nice thing to know in the situation.

              I hope she’s doing well.

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                9 months ago

                I mean, usually when theres two names in wikipedia its because they transitioned from one to the other, to me she looks like her identified gender, but I guess I can see why others didnt. I just double checked with a quick google search, it wasnt an intense investigation

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                  9 months ago

                  I can see why people cared. That’s just not me.

                  I don’t really think people’s curiosity is just cause to violate her privacy. It’s entirely up to her to decide to share that information or not.

                  I don’t understand people’s fascination with it. I’m fairly indifferent about people’s genders or sexual preferences in general. You make the choice that suits you best, I’ll do the same for me. If you want to be called he/she/they/whatever, then fine, that’s cool. I’ll do my best to respect your wish to be referred to by a particular title/pronoun. It makes no difference to me.

                  I’m also pretty indifferent about how people refer to me. Call me sir, miss, he, she, they, them, “hey you”… I don’t honestly care. I’m fine with gender normative terms and that’s what I tell people that I “prefer” but honestly, I could not care any less. I usually avoid gendered terms as much as I can when I’m in someone’s presence; I’m also bad with names, so I usually just use personal direct pronouns such as “you”. I try my best to side step the whole issue because it’s trivial in my mind. I won’t fault someone for caring about it, the same way I don’t care if someone gets my name wrong, or says it differently. I don’t care enough to correct them, and I don’t care that it’s wrong unless they need to enter my legal name into a thing for something, which is when it actually matters, legally, so I’ll correct them at that point. The only other correction I’ll make is to avoid confusion with coworkers. I work with some people who have similar sounding names to mine, so I’ll correct clients and co-workers so that I’m not conflated with them (and I don’t take flack for something they did, and they don’t take flack for something I’ve done, etc). Beyond that, I couldn’t care less. At the same time, people have gotten angry with me for pronouncing their name slightly wrong, so I know people are out there with very strong opinions on it.

                  Maybe I’m weird. Who knows. There’s just so many more important things in the world than what people call me that I’m just consistently unbothered by people getting it wrong.

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                    9 months ago

                    All I did was look at “leave Brittany alone” on google and then click wikipedia. Everything I shared here is public info and thus I didnt invade anyones privacy? This comment chain has been fairly low importance/care, I dont think any of here care about her gender all that much more than you do. The last few comments where just about the awkward nature of potentially misgendering someone by accident

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              9 months ago

              Well still the attitude seems like a discovery writer…if I changed my position that would be bad right?