Why does it seem people online will openly degrade anyone but out in public everone runs from confrontation? Why is there such social paranoia in public and too scared to socialize with strangers but will happily insult everyone online? If people are so lonely, why don’t they talk with people whil le they are out and exchange contact info? It seems more enjoyable talking with immigrants and better to avoid Canadians. I’m not bothered by dealing with someone talking stupid or if someone wants a friendly hug, it’s quite easy to have a good time with strangers and I have no concrns about giving my number to continue talking.

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    9 months ago

    I understand what you’re saying, social media runs on anger to get that engagement, getting those clicks. There does not seem to be a single site that is ruled my reactions, even Mastodon and Lemmy push having the correct opinions. Due to all of tue deletions, both Lemmy and Mastodon will never grow, never catch on, and there is no future in them. As bad as Twitter is, users are not punished for having the wrong view. Mastodon is a wonderful site, the censorship is why Mastodon will forever be nothing.

    The one big thing that I see would drasticly change both the internet and the real world is if there is strict protection of offensive opinions. If someone is not insulting anyone but express a completely diffetent view on a topic, it harms nobody by someone taking a contrary position during a discussion. It seems that people van’t deal in nuances, everything gets politized and label, and those labels are always a marker of “Those people have the wrong opinion and they don’t have the correct belief like we do, we know better than them.”

    What you say about a morbid curiosity to see the affects of an accident, I don’t. When I’m out and see an ambulance going at full speed, I silently start praying while I continue on and pray for whoever that ambulance is going to help, asking for healing, recovery, and to be made whole again. I’m nt bothered when I’m out if someone has a stupid attitude, and if someone’s visibly emotional, check on them and see if there is anyway to be of service to them in their moment of grief.

    All I’m talking about is having a heart for humanity, and taking an interest in other people’s life and well being, eventually it will come around and someone will go out of their way to care for you because they are interested in see you doing well or being successful in your own life.

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      9 months ago

      Personally I’m not really bothered by how others live, act or react to others or to me. Unless their actions have a direct and immediate effect on my life, I really do not care what others think. I enjoy the saying that states - ‘How others think of me is none of my business’ … because personally if someone is unkind to me, I won’t give them the satisfaction of showing them how I feel about it.

      I live my life and spread as much good will, love and understanding as I possibly can. And that is all I can do.

      I do not have any control over the actions or thoughts of others, I am only able to control the forces inside of me … and really, that is all we are capable of in this world and this life.

      The only hope we can give to others is by showing our own example. We can hope that what we do and what we say (or write) will have a positive effect on others and maybe they can witness the example you set and do the same to others. Just as negativity, anger and hatred can be so easily spread … positivity, love, hope and understanding can be spread the same way by showing it others as often as possible.

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        9 months ago

        I am fully with you on your general premise, I’m in agreement with you. It’s people completely lose their minds and lose all self control as soon as someone says “I don’t believe in vaccines”, without thinkingabout the people around them everyday in public who never got it and they will never know.

        That’s what I mean about responding to rage and anger, and not having the humility to care for others without getting wrapped up in having contrary views and being of service and gentle care to others.

        I don’t ask for agreement or complience in order to be close friends with anyone.

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          You are an insane bigot who regularly gets comments removed for being hateful. What a joke.