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    Just a reminder for when you listen to people being presented as trans persons who regret their surgery:

    Norma McCorvey - Jane Roe of Roe v Wade - was presented for decades as a devout Christian (evangelical and later Catholic) who regretted her decision. She was used as a prominent voice in the anti-abortion movement and in the attempts to overturn Roe.

    She revealed on her deathbed that she was being paid to take that position. The narrative was also complicated by her 35 year relationship with Connie Gonzalez, later claiming that she was no longer a lesbian before confessing that she was paid to say that as well.

    Also remember that when they call the child survivors of school shootings “paid actors,” it’s because that’s exactly the tactic they engage in.

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    In fact, one systematic review found that the average prevalence of surgical regret was 14.4% among all research studies analyzed

    Holy shit that’s actually crazy to me. [I actually tracked down that number because I was so curious] (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9) It’s over half cancer surgery. I’ve known that the regret rate for transition surgery was low for a long time, but that piece of context kinda blows my mind. You’re more likely to regret a variety of life saving procedures than gender affirming surgery, and it’s often by insane orders of magnitude.

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      And even the rare case of transition regret, it’s usually because 1. lack of peer group, 2. social condemnation and 3. your family now hates you.

      Not because of the procedure, but because of the assholes around you. (This by one older Swedish study on the subject).

      It’s a literal miracle cure. Any sane doctor would jump for it.

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          It’s unlikely the people who detransition because of it would be active on a detrans subreddit, because they would still consider themselves trans, and would instead be in trans subreddits for support.

          The three reasons the other commenter mentioned was taken from studies done on the subject.

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            It’s unlikely the people who detransition because of it

            Because of what? I don’t understand what you’re trying to communicate.

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            “Back in 1997, virtually no one had heard of queergender people. I couldn’t find a support system, and I couldn’t figure out how to tell people what I was.”

            That would be a big discrepency. The denizens of /r/detrans generally post about contemporary detransitioning rather than detransitions from 25 years ago.

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              I’m sorry, but if you think that there aren’t huge portions of the trans population who have no support system, then it doesn’t really feel possible to have a meaningful discussion about this with you.

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                if you think that there aren’t huge portions of the trans population who have no support system

                Huge portions of the trans population having no support system doesn’t imply that reasons for detransitioning will include not having a support system because the lack of a support system alters the likelihood of transitioning in the first place.

                if you think that there aren’t huge portions of the trans population who have no support system, it doesn’t really feel possible to have a meaningful discussion about this with you

                I don’t think that and it doesn’t make sense to assume or even suspect I do, given anything I’ve said. I’ve no idea why you’ve introduced this idea into the conversation.

                And even if I were to think that, what you’ve said doesn’t invalidate what I said, which was that having seen /r/detrans, the reasons given seemed silly.

                Clearly it is indeed not possible for us to have a meaningful discussion.

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                  I’m not saying it implies that. I’m saying that trans people and established research both say that. Your minimal experience with one of the detrans subreddits is not more substantial of a source than first hand accounts and peer reviewed papers.

                  Did you spend substantial time in /r/detrans and /r/actualdetrans? Were you aware of drama around when that split happened? Discussed it in the other trans communities on the sites? Because right now, your comments make it seem like you’re a passerby who has popped into a trans community and tried to say that your interactions with one community known for astroturfing are more meaningful than decades of research.

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      Is “regret” here necessarily supposed to be interpreted as “would rather have died”? I have had cancer surgery, it was not necessarily life saving, it was more precautionary (as I understand it, I was quite young). And I have some regrets related to it, but not that surgery itself. I can imagine there are a lot of cases like that for other cancer treatments as well, “I should have gone another round of chemo instead”, “another round of radiation”. Which may mean higher risk of not making it, but may still not be the same as “I regret having my life saved by this necessary surgery”.

      I’m not saying this to cast doubt on the relevance for making the comparison to gender affirming surgery. I think the comparison is apt and relevant. For gender affirming surgery there are basically no equivalent to radiation or chemo alternatives to surgery (not that they necessarily are an alternative to surgery for cancer either. Surgery may absolutely be necessary for survival). Since gender affirming surgery does not have an “I should have done treatment X instead, hence I regret my surgery”, maybe this explains the discrepency in the regret rates?

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        Fear of death makes you gullible to accept treatment when it wouldn’t have been the best outcome for you. Some cancer treatments prolong your life very little compared to the time you’ll spend in a hospital, and instead of living 2 weeks longer after 6 painful months in the hospital, some people could have been in palliative care among their loved ones for 6 months and die. It is easy to regret agreeing to hospitalization at the end of your life.

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    I wonder what the regret rate is for getting married? Having kids? Having conservative parents?

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      Buyers remorse is a thing too. Better outlaw purchases of anything outside of the essentials to live. Those can also cause buyers remorse. Guess we’re just outlawing all purchases.

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      Ah to be in that audience and having all the facts… So you’re saying that any elective surgery with a high rate of regret should be banned for the safety of the patients? That’s fantastic, thank you for advocating against the horrors of cosmetic surgery simply in the name of beauty and fashion, I’m sure your followers will appreciate your courage in speaking out against them!

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          Yes it does… what’s your point? I’m pretty sure I understand the sarcasm of the previous poster, it’s what my comment was based on. And I’m also pretty sure I understand that Chloe Cole and other conservatives have no comprehension of how transgender surgery differs greatly from their own cosmetic surgeries and probably can’t even understand why one is usually bad while the other is usually good.

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    No surprise there; it’s just more of the same self-serving bullshit.

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    Conservatives regret it. Not the people having them. Poorly written headline. /S

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      Same old intellectually lazy right-wing bullshit: Take an isolated example or two and apply it to an entire population.

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    The only one I regret is orchi and thats because I could have made OnlyFans money cosplaying as a femboy for the cishet male simps. sigh

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    It’s so ironic bc the “regret the surgery” narrative depends on body dysphoria being a thing.

    I mean wouldn’t it just be fucking awful if your body didn’t match your gender?

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    Great to have another study backing trans people. However, I have a feeling that the author of the linked article only read the abstract? At least it seems as if they don’t provide any additional information in the text. Like, how extensive was the search of the study and how many people did it include? I couldn’t access the paper itself, maybe someone knows how?

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      The claim of the study is that less than 1% do, contrary to conservative/TERF claims of a large ever growing wave of regret.