I’ve found that some people fall in love from the outside in, others from the inside out, maybe a mix. You’re probably more “connection leads to attractiveness” oriented (demisexual)

Me too. I’m madly in love with many of my friends, but I don’t make any demands, and I feel complete alone. They know and reciprocate. It’s great when it’s all open, honest, and non-controlling. Platonic love, affection, admiration, and fun - are very satisfying even without sex