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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ExpensiveSummer45 on 2023-08-12 00:25:14.

I (F24) met this guy (M22) on bumble about 2 months ago, and the first time we ever met, he came over to my apartment and we had sex, but the type of sex that we had was like pretty rough/kinky and very animalistic (I also was a virgin but I didn’t tell him until we had sex the second time…)

Anyways, after the first night, he would be very sexual with me and make very sexual references and stuff and things were fine even up until the third time that we had sex, where I started to match his energy and “roughness” by choking him and biting and stuff. Up until this point, I assumed that we would just be FWB because he was very low effort (we never gone out on a single date).

However, for the fourth time, he asked if I wanted to go out to dinner, which I accepted and he bought my dinner and we had a very cute date by the beach. He kept complimenting me and telling me I’m very smart and pretty. We actually got along really well and was surprised by how much we had in common. That night, we only had oral sex and no penetration. Then for the fifth hangout, he invited me out to the movies, and we watched Barbie together and we didn’t have sex that night.

Well, for our 6th meetup, we went out to an outdoor movie and then went over to his place and ended up having sex, but the sex is slowly and progressively becoming less “rough/kinky” and is just vanilla? like that energy is gone now. However, during the 6th date, he brought up kids and marriage and stuff and asked me if I was ready to settle down (which I thought was weird).

So the around the first time we were getting to know each other, he would be extremely sexual and kinky and rough with me, but now it switched over to vanilla. What changed?