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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Hetouchi on 2023-08-11 22:23:07.

Basically, my wife told me she doesn’t feel attraction or desire for me anymore after I made a cosmetic change to my appearance to more authentically express my identity to the world.

I checked with her before I made the change and she was fine with it. Now she doesn’t know if she can adjust and be attracted to me again and its made me realize that, despite no other issues in our relationship, I don’t think I can be happy long term in a sexless relationship.

Am I wrong here?

I am comfortable with the idea that I sometimes have to unlearn problematic ways of feeling and thinking that I learned from society as a kid but idk if this is that kinda issue or not.