• rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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    3 months ago

    It’s perfectly common for people to change how they act over the course of a relationship, especially if it lasts a long time. She might have made more of an effort to behave “nicely” when the relationship was fresh, or maybe she just changed as a person, or confused “acting confidently” with “abusing service workers” when she gained a little confidence as she got older.

    If you’re in a relationship with someone who starts acting like this after, let’s say, 10 years, you don’t immediately drop everything, especially if you have children with them.

    And y’know, men are often victims in abusive relationships, too. They stay for similar reasons as abused women.

    • blarghly@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      That’s the joke, isn’t it?

      Women marry men expecting them to change, and then they don’t.
      Men marry women expecting them not to change, and then they do.