So, to get this out of the way, I’m a cisgender white man from a well-off family in a fairly affluent town. I’m making this post because I want to hear perspectives from those who are different from and likely significantly more knowledgeable than me. (Literally as I was writing this post, I came to the epiphany that I should probably more properly educate myself on socialism.)

TL;DR: What is your opinion on giving money to houseless people you see IRL?

I like to consider myself socialist/progressive in thought—in favor of wealth redistribution via various methods, live and let live, freedom for everyone as long as you’re not materially harming anyone, etc.—but I grew up in a fairly conservative household (more socially than fiscally, but even then). Being in a rich area, I never really saw houseless people around unless I went to one of the nearby cities, and the general policy was keep walking and don’t look. My parents definitely raised me to be kind and generous, but more in a detached “give to charity” way.

Rather recently, I’ve really embraced this idea of being socialist, and I’ve become very free with giving my money in particular (though I’m aware I could do more, like join a DSA branch or somethin’). I love giving to non-profit organizations when I can, I support creators I like on Patreon. I’ve even started giving to people on Fedi who I’ve seen need money for whatever reason. Spread the wealth, right?

Now, things have changed where I live, and even in my rich lil burb, you can usually find at least one refugee or houseless person when you go out to a grocery store or something. I just saw a guy who was standing outside a grocery store asking for spare change, and it was a rare occasion that I actually had cash in my wallet. On my way out, I gave it to him. Simple.

But I feel weird about it. I have all these ideas in my head from White America saying that they’ll just buy alcohol or drugs with it or that they’re scamming me or anything else like that. Then on the other hand, I think that it’s just as likely (if not more) that they’re going to spend it on things they actually need to live and how it’s not my job to police how they use their money. And then on the third hand, I think that maybe it would be better to donate money to organizations that help out houseless people than just giving money to random people. Then on the fourth hand—you get the idea.

For those of you who actually read the whole post and didn’t stop at the TL;DR, I have a few questions:

  1. Why in God’s name did you actually read this whole thing?
  2. Are these feelings normal or am I just a self-centered prick?
  3. What are your opinions on giving money to houseless people you just randomly meet?
  4. As a bonus question for the socialists out there: Any recs on socialism learning resources for someone who likes reading, but doesn’t like reading books?

For those of you who made it all the way to the end, thank you for reading my neurotic ramblings.

EDIT: I didn’t really expect this to blow up… but thank you all so much for your perspectives on everything. It was exactly what I was hoping for and exactly what I didn’t think I was going to get. I tried to read everything and I feel simultaneously less conflicted, but definitely more… not confused, but maybe full of ideas?

  • Dee@beehaw.org
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    2 years ago

    What is your opinion on giving money to houseless people you see IRL?

    I live in the PDX area and so run into a lot of houseless people. For me, it varies. The houseless are not a monolith. There are many, many different kinds of houseless for how they got there and why they’re there now. Many just need a bit of help to get back on their feet, many others don’t want help. You just have to talk to them to get to know them. I’ve had many conversations with them on the train and there’s a lot of good people out there who were given a tough break. I don’t give to every one of them, but the ones I know it will help I try to when I’m able.

    • M. Orange@beehaw.orgOP
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      2 years ago

      You just have to talk to them to get to know them. I’ve had many conversations with them on the train and there’s a lot of good people out there who were given a tough break.

      I wish I were the kind of person who does that. I’m definitely a big introvert and don’t really like talking to people outside of controlled social situations. Honestly, I feel like maybe being that kind of person would make this whole situation easier, but… yeah.

      Thank you very much for your perspective, though. It helps.

      • Dee@beehaw.org
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        2 years ago

        For what it matters, I think the most important thing to take away from what I said is that the houseless are not a monolith. As soon as somebody says “all houseless do X” know that they’re talking out of their ass. All houseless people do not do any one thing, because they’re all individual people with their own wants and needs.

        I think it’s great you’re questioning those feelings you’re having though and wanting to help more. That’s where I started. Even if the progress is slow, as long as you’re moving forward in that direction it’s a good thing. Best of luck to you 😊

    • bluGill@kbin.social
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      2 years ago

      Some of them are great at telling a convincing story that is not the truth . Maybe you can tell who is honest and who is not, but I can’t

      • Gil (he/they)@beehaw.org
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        2 years ago

        Houseless people are suffering through some of the most dire consequences of living in our capitalist hellscape (which is itself built by wealthy people many of whose wealth is ill-gotten through lying, swindling, and other exploitation). They don’t have proper shelter, many deal with food insecurity, many are just desperate to have some kind of stable life or just have someone treat them like an equal, like a fellow human.

        They shouldn’t have to jump through hoops, prove themselves to be the “good” type, perform some kind of perfect victimhood, or pose as saints for us - and, being real, many of us are only one emergency away from also becoming houseless - so that we can pass what fickle judgment we have and decide they’re worthy of aid and assistance. We don’t really have the capacity to judge them off a small, often one-time interaction, and even if we did, what kind of message is that? “I’ll give you five dollars, but only if you do a little song and dance and show me that you applied for a job”?

        Frankly, people deserve housing and food, no matter their moral character; houseless people shouldn’t have to demonstrate their character to us in order to deserve even a small parcel of what we’re fortunate enough to have. It takes some arrogance and lack of compassion on our part to expect that of them, especially when many of us with housing aren’t exactly saints either. Given the messaging we get from society, I understand some of the misgivings people might have, but still. Most people in general shouldn’t have to do anything special to be worthy of our kindness.