yeah… I don’t think that can be the “general rule” (e.g. law perspective) since socially men already have a lot of power… But I take your point as logic and fair: For sure, if a couple goes in that discussion, and he is clear that he won’t help at all, and she still goes along with it… then okay, maybe there’s some fairness to the situation. Specially if she knows, and can handle all by herself (e.g. has some rich parents)

Anyway, I think the “her body her choice” motto is more about rape victims… so, I believe you are just stretching the situation. Saying “his wallet, his choice” is way too much. Sounds politically incorrect in all ways. Penis and Vagina had a consent, in your example, and that should be: her decision for abortion. You want to extend it to his decision on being present… (or, asking for the abortion.) I think this was a given until recently. Parenthood tests are available, and having a judge ‘force’ such thing is relatively new for ‘human history’ (thousands of years without it.) anyway… I am just ranting by now. tl;dr I don’t agree with you but whatever we are just random people on the internet.