I(mid 30s dude) am seeing this lady(mid 30s lady), we have different political opinions and talk pretty openly about it. It’s interesting, she voted for Trump, was homeschooled/raised christian, very nationalistic and buys his crypto alongside some other crypto, I bought the Communist manifesto while hanging out with her and express all of my opinions boldly. No issues so far, literally.

However over the last few months I’ve realized a theme in her beliefs, they’re all fringe and fake. She wants to go to a chiropractor, she loves the military and believes Trump is a good guy. She dislikes vaccines and believes in psuedo quack medicine yet smokes and vapes. She’s an absolute fool and I know it stems from her homeschooling.

Now I have a pretty strong grasp of history and when we discuss the stuff she doesn’t understand I find just talking about the history makes her think at least slightly different. But obviously that isn’t gonna work long term.

Now I care about this person, I’m not head over heels in love or anything but I don’t want her to be this stupid. I dunno how to flat out tell her, “hey your education was poor and it shows,” how do you tell someone they’re very ignorant in a way that they can put it together themselves. Honestly truly, how?

  • the_abecedarian@piefed.socialEnglish
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    11 hours ago

    Doing that would only make her lean in harder. Politics is mostly emotional, values, and vibes based. You need to

    • see what values she may have that could possibly lead her away from maga. Gently point her to things and have convos about how trump & maga don’t fit her values
    • reduce her right wing content intake and increase her engagement with content that has better politics
    • introduce her to people/communities that will help you move her left (after getting their buy in into doing so)
    • essentially offer her a new identity to drop the maga one for
    • be patient, be humble, meet her where she is, understand she may not ever take up your exact politics