I(mid 30s dude) am seeing this lady(mid 30s lady), we have different political opinions and talk pretty openly about it. It’s interesting, she voted for Trump, was homeschooled/raised christian, very nationalistic and buys his crypto alongside some other crypto, I bought the Communist manifesto while hanging out with her and express all of my opinions boldly. No issues so far, literally.
However over the last few months I’ve realized a theme in her beliefs, they’re all fringe and fake. She wants to go to a chiropractor, she loves the military and believes Trump is a good guy. She dislikes vaccines and believes in psuedo quack medicine yet smokes and vapes. She’s an absolute fool and I know it stems from her homeschooling.
Now I have a pretty strong grasp of history and when we discuss the stuff she doesn’t understand I find just talking about the history makes her think at least slightly different. But obviously that isn’t gonna work long term.
Now I care about this person, I’m not head over heels in love or anything but I don’t want her to be this stupid. I dunno how to flat out tell her, “hey your education was poor and it shows,” how do you tell someone they’re very ignorant in a way that they can put it together themselves. Honestly truly, how?
What is the concrete problem? You’re obviously having some unknown unrelated connection, but what needs to change?
(If you don’t enjoy her basic company, there is little point in meeting further, it might even harm you (emotional investment/involvement))
If I were in a similar situation I’d simply limit the relationship to certain fields and be vocal about it and your reasons. (I don’t know about your needs, but to me this couldn’t be my “only” relationship).