• Gerudo@lemm.ee
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    Agreeing with having no kids but seeing them become obsessed with other couples’ kids.

    The literal week we ended up getting married, she started pressing to have kids. Lasted only a few months.

  • Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Being too positive. At some point, that turns into a fault. Also telling me to “stop worrying about [whatever]” doesn’t mean I will.

  • Lady Butterfly she/her@lemmy.worldOP
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    Self pity. It’s one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It’s a big red flag

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      Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a “woe is me” mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it’s draining!)

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      People don’t talk about this enough. It’s one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that’s way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that’s way too low. In either case you’re walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don’t say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.

  • miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    18 小时前

    Ask them how their weekend was and there’s always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda ‘bleh’ at some point. Every.Single.Time

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        I don’t understand it either, but I want to say that there’s nothing wrong with feeling bleh sometimes.

        Mentioning it every time, though, is a bit much. The underlying problem most likely isn’t something your friend or coworker is qualified to handle. If you’re aware enough to know there’s a problem, then do something about it. If you have a toothache, you don’t fix it by mentioning it to everyone within earshot. You go to a dentist.

  • RagnarokOnline@programming.dev
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    Coworker. He just straight up said “no” to helping me stock the storage room (which was our job). Otherwise was a real nice guy.

    Turns out he was a flakey prick and he left me in a lurch while we were out of town for work.