What other tactic is there to get a date? Being told no doesn’t mean it’s a bad strategy, it just means that person isn’t interested in dating you, at which point you move on and ask the next person you feel attracted enough to want to date and if they are interested then they’ll say yes and if not they’ll say no and you move on and repeat. Nobody owes you a yes, regardless of who you are, and I guarantee you Cavill has been turned down before.
What? No it’s not. Trust me that’s not what Henry is talking about. That’s an algorithm that matches people in an environment where there is much less chance of rejection or ruined friendships. It’s not at all the same.
Neither is flirting / suggestions and allowing the other person to ask you when and if they feel ready. Neither is using a matchmaker.
There are so many ways to meet people without going up and just asking them to date you. That works well for a subset of very attractive people but can severely isolate a lot of people.
Online dating still ends up with the requirement of asking or being asked the question “so, you want to go out sometime?” in order to get a date. Nobody in an online dating app is any more or less obligated to say yes or no than they would be in person.
Edit: and a matchmaker is just having someone else ask for you.
What other tactic is there to get a date? Being told no doesn’t mean it’s a bad strategy, it just means that person isn’t interested in dating you, at which point you move on and ask the next person you feel attracted enough to want to date and if they are interested then they’ll say yes and if not they’ll say no and you move on and repeat. Nobody owes you a yes, regardless of who you are, and I guarantee you Cavill has been turned down before.
There rest of the tactic is to be prepared for a yes.
Nothing worse than “oh, cool, so, uh…whatcha wanna do?”
That’ll turn a yes into a no really fast.
Coffee. First date is always coffee.
What if I don’t like coffee?
Cafes have many beverage options.
I’m no expert, but of course there are other tactics.
I think it’s frowned upon to club someone caveman style
Not ethically, and I wouldn’t qualify the results as a date.
Lol. I’m not a fan of online dating but I wouldn’t call it unethical.
That’s still just asking someone out.
What? No it’s not. Trust me that’s not what Henry is talking about. That’s an algorithm that matches people in an environment where there is much less chance of rejection or ruined friendships. It’s not at all the same. Neither is flirting / suggestions and allowing the other person to ask you when and if they feel ready. Neither is using a matchmaker.
There are so many ways to meet people without going up and just asking them to date you. That works well for a subset of very attractive people but can severely isolate a lot of people.
Online dating still ends up with the requirement of asking or being asked the question “so, you want to go out sometime?” in order to get a date. Nobody in an online dating app is any more or less obligated to say yes or no than they would be in person.
Edit: and a matchmaker is just having someone else ask for you.
Damn - that’s deep.
It’s not. It’s super basic.