• ameancow@lemmy.world
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    18 hours ago

    It’s not about “her” because “she” doesn’t exist.

    This is about self-esteem, not sex or consent. It’s not even about his dream, because plenty of people have dreams where they don’t get what they want. It’s about how he views himself. I’m confused how this post is like, 3-dozen comments about consent and relationships when it’s one kid viewing himself through… himself.

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      13 hours ago

      Oh yeah, that’s an interesting take. I think it depends on how much you believe dreams represent our subconscious. I believe there is a lot of randomness in dreams and that who you are in dreams is not necessarily who you are. However, you can definitely choose how to frame your recalled dreams in waking life and that’s what I was suggesting.

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        9 hours ago

        Dreams may or may not have anything to do with reality, but how you interpret your own dreams upon waking is absolutely grounded in the reality of your own mental state. A lot of people have dreams like this where they want to do the thing that’s fun but something gets in the way and we go “haha wild that dreams are always like that” and we don’t dwell on it.

        If you’re mentally unhealthy, have wrecked self-esteem, or battling depression, anxiety, other issues, you’re probably going to find a lot more meaning from very small things than someone healthier. These kinds of things are a wake-up-call that you need better self-care, and that can include just learning to not ruminate on your feelings.