• Cris@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      Men often struggle with isolation, poor self esteem, and mental health issues, telling them they deserve their misery and loneliness only feeds the hateful behaviour you take issue with.

      It’s currently men’s mental health awareness month. We can do better than antagonizing the mentally ill, isolated and suffering for our own emotional gratification at their expense. Its actively counterproductive to fixing the societal issues their toxicity creates, and its also needlessly cruel.

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        As long as they want sexual connection as well, they technically are (Incel = involuntarily celibate)

        But the way incel culture manifested itself, incels began being associated with angry envious misogynistic young men, which is not great and certainly not a good mental framework for someone who just wants intimacy

        There are many ways people can start thinking of themselves as undesirable, unwanted, perpetually lonely, and we need to provide some social example for them to begin realizing flaws in their mentality, not reinforcing them.

        We should also combat the notion that relationships are everywhere and easy to find, and make sure to note many, many cases of people finding their first true love way after 30, 50 or even 70. It’s just never too late, and it’s not a race in the slightest.

        Witg the diversity of attractions, what one may find undesirable may be what the other desperately seeks.

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      3 days ago

      That’s funny, I happen to have you tagged as an incel. Not sure if I want to remind myself why

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        Based on his comment history, this guy doesn’t seem very well liked in general. Lots of incel vibes, and he does have some comments in German which I can’t read, but based on the downvotes, I think it’s safe to say his views are unpopular in any language.