It’s also worth understanding that trauma is something that you work out through your daily life, not just in therapy. One of the models for trauma is that it’s caused by a sense of helplessness in the face of a great stressor or existential threat, and engaging in activities that let you react to dangers can be theraputic.
Theraputic, not therapy.
No one else at the table needs to be directly involved. No one need be asked to be a shoulder to lie on. It’s not any different in practice than the masturbatory power fantasies we’re all engaging in at the table. It’s just starting from a slightly different place.
It’s also worth understanding that trauma is something that you work out through your daily life, not just in therapy. One of the models for trauma is that it’s caused by a sense of helplessness in the face of a great stressor or existential threat, and engaging in activities that let you react to dangers can be theraputic.
Theraputic, not therapy.
No one else at the table needs to be directly involved. No one need be asked to be a shoulder to lie on. It’s not any different in practice than the masturbatory power fantasies we’re all engaging in at the table. It’s just starting from a slightly different place.