• GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      Connecting: “I know how that feels. This one time, something similar and awful happened to me. It still hurts.”

      One-Upping: “Oh, that’s nothing. This one time, something similar and awful happened to me, pity me for how I hurt more than you.”

    • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      it is. However, some people (fuck you dana) can’t let someone tell a story without interrupting with a “my story is worse” and then just talk over you, telling their whole story you just reminded them of….
      it’s “one upping” that’s the problem… it’s nuanced but it’s possible to relate without taking over the conversation.

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        3 days ago

        Meh, I dont have the patience to figure out all the sophistications of small talk. If I’m telling you something you left a lull in the conversation and feel free to take back over when ever you like.

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          it all depends on what the conversation is about. If it’s about my toenail, feel free to chime in… and balance, like don’t just prevent anyone else from talking