It can be (just a wild guess) that you aren’t looking for a friend first, and then evaluating what would happen if you fucked a lot and lived together. When you go from the other end, things tend to end up damaging. You’re gameable, so it’s not only random at that point, but many will use you. (this goes the same for both (s)exes)
There were 5 that were toxic, the first one was a casual friend I ended up getting close with and started dating before we ever had sex. The next two were casual hookup partners that evolved into relationships, the fourth was actually a friend I had had since highschool and only started dating 15 years after graduation, and the fifth and final one was again a casual hookup that turned serious.
I admit as I wrote that out I saw the issue. In defense of the fourth one, she had some issues with her childhood, and the father of her children was … let’s just say not helping. We’ve reconnected after some time and are still friends, but agreed dating was a bad idea.
It can be (just a wild guess) that you aren’t looking for a friend first, and then evaluating what would happen if you fucked a lot and lived together. When you go from the other end, things tend to end up damaging. You’re gameable, so it’s not only random at that point, but many will use you. (this goes the same for both (s)exes)
There were 5 that were toxic, the first one was a casual friend I ended up getting close with and started dating before we ever had sex. The next two were casual hookup partners that evolved into relationships, the fourth was actually a friend I had had since highschool and only started dating 15 years after graduation, and the fifth and final one was again a casual hookup that turned serious.
I admit as I wrote that out I saw the issue. In defense of the fourth one, she had some issues with her childhood, and the father of her children was … let’s just say not helping. We’ve reconnected after some time and are still friends, but agreed dating was a bad idea.