• Pup Biru@aussie.zone
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    3 hours ago

    the point of pride is it’s about visibility: relationships in pop culture are almost entirely hetero… you just don’t see queer relationships at the ratio they exist in society… pride is all about celebrating the existence of queer existence and our relationships and culture

    if you add similar things for heterosexuals, it’s saying “we have everything most of the time and this 1 time where you’re seen, we want to be part of that as well”… or worse, want to draw attention away from it by being bigger

    • whoisearth@lemmy.ca
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      23 minutes ago

      We (white people) gave black people the shortest and shittiest month to celebrate their heritage which a segment of us still bitch about them celebrating a month meanwhile bitch every month is White Heritage Month and this is what a large segment of the population feels and you cannot argue with feelings.

      Why do they feel this way? Let’s get to that and work to solve the problem.

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      1 hour ago

      I agree that hetero relationships get quite a lot of visibility, but it gets little positivity, which some people are quite sensitive to, especially among teenagers. Also, it enforces LGBTQ+ and cishets as two opposing sides, which they are not.

      Faced with (undoubtedly important) messages about how queer folks and their relationships are awesome and worthy of appraisal and attention, some of the hetero teens and even adults feel left out, like they’re not “cool” for just being the default.

      Obviously, they are no less cool than anyone else, and their relationships are no less beautiful. And we need to talk about that too, in no way to silence the rest, but to underscore that truly any relation to gender and sexuality is equally valuable. The very pushback on LGBTQ+ is partly fueled by the resentment for this lack of hetero positivity, and we need to remove any ground for it.

      LGBTQ+ and cishets are not on the opposite sides, they are all parts of the same spectrum, and so any confrontations between the two are as odd as bisexuals attacking homosexuals. To translate this idea, we should include cishets into the same positivity movement, while remembering the groups inside LGBTQ+ are still unjustly discriminated against.