He’s a father of a 28-year-old son and he’s hurting. A retired police officer, he proudly voted for Donald Trump every time he ran and never hid his political beliefs from his family. “My son and his wife say that since I’m a fan of Trump they’re no fan of mine and cut me off,” he said. “Now I can’t see my only grandchild who I was so close to. It’s crazy and it’s tragic.”

It’s also increasingly common. The 2024 election spatchcocked the nation, widening a rift that was exposed in 2016 and put in an even sharper gulf four years later. Now, the hyper-partisan politics in the shadow of the 2024 election is breaking the bonds of families to a greater extent than ever before.

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    I don’t understand Dem supporters cutting off family that are GOP supporters. Both parties oppose human rights, enable rapists in power, and support currently arming Nazis (Congress had to withdraw a ban on arming Nazis in order to send arms to far-right groups in Ukraine).

    If you’re a leftist opposing both fascist rightwing parties, you’d have a leg to stand on. But Dem supporters cutting off GOP supporting family just feels like that meme of spiderman pointing at himself. Anyone supporting either pro-genocide party is in no position to be criticizing the political beliefs of others.

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      Assuming this is a good faith argument, I’ll throw in: Some thoughtful, leftist commentary claims that the Democrats and the Republicans are fundamentally the same behind the scenes, with identity politics as the window dressing to distinguish them, and keep the lower classes divided.

      Well, look at what we have here: Identity politics successfully dividing the lower classes. The two parties do differ quite a bit in some ways, and the window dressing is causing the estrangement.

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            Yeah, but I don’t care about their rhetoric. I care about how they govern, and in that respect there’s no difference between the GOP and the Dems.

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              Okay, but your first comment referenced supporters, who are different people than the electeds or party leaders. I might suggest re-phrasing to say, “I believe that Dem supporters have the same facts, thoughts, and perspective on the parties as I do, and as such, I find them morally culpable for every action of the party leaders.” That’s a different thing than not understanding how they can behave the way they do.

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              Trump is directly responsible for the poor and delayed response to COVID and furthering the validity of fringe anti mask claims, making him also directly responsible for the deaths of hundreds of thousands of people.

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                Yup. And Biden is responsible for hundreds of thousands more, ending Covid assistance, forcing people back to the office, and implementing Trump’s shitty “stop counting sick people” idea to pretend it was over. There’s still people dying today of severe covid, with it as one of the top killers of young people now.

                Prosecute them both for these deaths.

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      Unfortunately it’s a side effect of the team sports of politics. I vote Dem but they obviously have problems to fix. My family mainly votes RNC. I can talk to some on an individual level and get to agreements about political topics. Usually after agreeing on something they will reset back to talking points.

      I understand why some people will cut off toxic families, but it doesn’t help change the situation. I feel obligated to try to talk sense into people while I still have some patience. Pushing each group further into their echo chamber just helps our oppressors.

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        Arming Nazis & ISIS, supporting genocide, escalating to hot wars with nuclear superpowers, breaking records on oil extractions, breaking records on deportations, working to privatize Medicare, etc. Saying the Dems have “some problems to fix” is putting it mildly. If you judge their actions, instead of their words, there’s no difference between the two.

        You’re in no position to be giving your family any grief while you’re still voting for Dems. Pot calling the kettle black.

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          In the US there are only two party choices that matter. We are forced to vote for evil and must choose the lesser. I agree with you in principal but Trump is an especially egregious choice.

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            When both evils support genocide, there is no lesser. The only reason these two maintain their power is because people like you convince everyone that’s all that’s possible.

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              Not to be reductionist of the genocide in Gaza, it is undoubtedly evil and both parties deserve to be labeled as such for supporting it, but to speak as though that’s the only issue in this world and the only yardstick we can use to measure both parties is itself reductionist. And the reason they maintain their power is that the system is so structured as to ensure it. And that’s not to say there is nothing we can do about that (for one, elimination of FPTP voting), but as of the 2024 election the reality was that only one of those two parties would win. And to claim that recognizing that in itself is the sole cause of it is silly.

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                It’s not the only thing happening. But it is the worst thing happening. It’s the worst thing that can happen.

                I thought we all agreed genocide is the worst crime possible.

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                  And nobody in this thread at least is arguing against that. You seem to have taken the position that because both parties support Israel in their genocide of Palestinians there can be no other measures worth judging them by. That they are equal. And the “both sides” argument is objectively a false equivalence. It’s not as though a woman’s bodily autonomy no longer matters because Israel is leading a genocidal campaign in Gaza, for instance.

                  It is precisely because there are other issues in the world and in the country that there is a lesser evil. Even if we disagree on degrees of “lesser” or even who is “lesser”, everything is not so one dimensional as to be able to label both political parties as equally evil when there are other evils that need to be piled on and added to the scale. Ignoring those evils is ignoring the victims of those evils.

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                    When people are charged with a crime, while there may be many lesser charges for other crimes committed at the same time, the prosecution will mainly focus on the most severe charge.

                    Both parties are criminally complicit in genocide. Debating the weight of the lesser charges each is guilty of is not really relevant. They’re both genocidal. They’re both irredeemable. They both need to go.

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          Yes. Thank for agreeing with me that the Dems have some problems to fix. I think their main problem is they put corporate interest over citizens. I think that will solve many of the other issues that you mentioned. Would you like to suggest something else for them to focus on? Or is your complaint that they aren’t perfect?

          I don’t got time for doomers that just want to blame others. We (humans) have enough blame to spread around. Fix each other and help each other grow. Don’t wall off everyone else.

          Also thank you AGAIN for agreeing with me (even if your reason isn’t 100). I’m NOT giving them grief. I am engaging them with conversations. I can do this because I don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. That just helps fascists.

          I guess my confusion is what do you think should happen? Then whatever you say as the answer. YOU go make that happen. You can keep complaining about other groups not doing anything, or you can get involved yourself. Join a different group, if the current ones aren’t up to your standards. Start a new group. Try to make the world a better place for you and your loved ones by trying to make your goals a reality.

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      Hmm yes 2 and 4 are both numbers under 10, so they are the same number. I guess 4 is prime now.