• Ragnarok314159@sopuli.xyz
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    2 months ago

    I went back to college (I am an older millennial) and it was insane to me the difference in how kids ten years younger than me were raised. Just talking with them and how they missed the whole “it’s the 80’s, fuck dem kids” parenting style.

    Kids being loud? Beat them within an inch of their life. Kid needs help with school? Fuck you, asshole kid. I have TV to watch. Going to the store? Lock these asshole kids in your watertight Buick in the middle of the summer for some reason (I still don’t understand this at all).

    Then I talk to younger kids who just went along with their parents to the store. It is incredible to me how truly awful Boomer parents were at being parents.

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      Yep. It’s helpful to recall that baby boomer parents were often suffering ptsd from various wars and nobody got help. Now you have people practicing gentle parenting.

      I love my parents but they were truly terrible parents. In it for themselves and duck how the kids feel.

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        Not that many of them went to Vietnam. I was deployed twice myself and don’t take it out on my kids. I can see them having more generational trauma from being raised by a collection of parents that were in WW2. Although Boomers are somehow worse parents than the people who taught the Nazis.

        The correction to gentle parenting is (my opinion) way too far. Treating kids like coherent individuals that can be reasoned with like an episode of Bluey is ridiculous. Lots of parents around my age tried and failed, then everyone goes off in their corners and latches onto an electronic device.