In-person: you just concretely tell them “if you want to be around me/in my home you cannot talk about LGBT people that way.” Something to that effect. Don’t bother trying to fight them with information, don’t get drawn into a fight and make them feel like they’re waging a holy war. You frame it as a matter of respect and social consequences, make it clear it’s not acceptable any more than putting up their muddy jackboots on your couch is. Especially if it’s family or just someone you can’t easily cut out. This makes it not about who is right or wrong (they can’t be wrong ever) it’s about respecting you and your space. Same way I don’t demand my parents convince me not to curse around them, I do it because they asked and I love and respect them.
Online: “this is an ignorant, bigoted take.” Report, block, move on with your life.
In-person: you just concretely tell them “if you want to be around me/in my home you cannot talk about LGBT people that way.” Something to that effect. Don’t bother trying to fight them with information, don’t get drawn into a fight and make them feel like they’re waging a holy war. You frame it as a matter of respect and social consequences, make it clear it’s not acceptable any more than putting up their muddy jackboots on your couch is. Especially if it’s family or just someone you can’t easily cut out. This makes it not about who is right or wrong (they can’t be wrong ever) it’s about respecting you and your space. Same way I don’t demand my parents convince me not to curse around them, I do it because they asked and I love and respect them.
Online: “this is an ignorant, bigoted take.” Report, block, move on with your life.