I graduated in May with my associates degree, and sadly after applying a bit nothing, not even a reply email. I am convinced I am just unprepared for this industry, I will admit I don’t have a GitHub with 1 billion contributions, and a bunch of connections. but can I seriously get nothing. I can’t afford the 25K needed for my bachelors. I am honestly considering put in my applications to target or whatever and giving up.

  • hollyberries@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I do understand your lack of time, you are not alone. I was hoping that my (similar educational and emotional) experience would show you that giving up and allowing hardships to move you backwards isn’t the way to go. I’m not saying your goal will never happen for you. I’m saying the “finish line of success” is constantly moving, and this is a marathon and not a race. Don’t let yourself get in the way of yourself. As long as your basic needs are met (housing, clothing, food) and you are making steps towards your end goal - no matter how small - you are making progress.

    These are some of the things I stuck to after the burnout that kept the goal moving when working 45 hour weeks in an understaffed kitchen:

    • Too tired? Read code and update the docs. It keeps the projects fresh in my mind.
    • Too upset? Bug smashing time! The dopamine boost is amaaaazing.
    • Can’t sleep because the sleep schedule is fucked up? I’m awake, instead of getting upset about that, use that energy write a function or two and then go back to bed. It doesn’t have to be a whole feature. Conventional/Atomic commits are fabulous for this, especially when using git flow.
    • Woke up a little too early? Pull in some PRs and test them. Use the work day to figure out whether I want to merge them or not.
    • Leisure time is leisure time. If code feels like leisure, do it.

    Obviously, the above may not work for you, it only serves as an example of how to redirect your feelings and reality to be a little more productive, to get closer to your goal. Your methods may be different.

    My perception of you (going by posts on here and Mastodon) is that you have the passion that is required to succeed, and lack the self-confidence and determination to really go for it. The determination is the most important part because with enough determination, you are the one in the driver’s seat. Use your passion to reinforce your determination. In time, the results of your determination will reinforce the self-confidence.

    You can do it, you just need to believe in yourself. If it helps, I believe in you too. Big hugs to you, sis. You’ve go this.