• Rivalarrival@lemmy.today
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        6 months ago

        If they’re non-binary, you’re going to be so anxious about using the right pronouns that you won’t even notice their hair color.

        Edit: it’s a joke answer, people, in response to a joke question. It’s not made at the expense of any marginalized individual or group. The only people who would be anxious about the situation are allies; the 'phobes don’t give a shit. Untwist yer knickers.

        • Mossy Feathers (She/They)@pawb.social
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          7 months ago

          Nah, most enbys are chill and recognize that pronouns can be easy to forget. You’re just upset that people get annoyed when you repeatedly misgender them.

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            7 months ago

            I had firsthand experience when an enby stayed at our place for a while. My old Gen X self had trouble remembering to use the correct pronouns sometimes, but it got easier with practice. Decades of using only binary pronouns for individuals takes time to unlearn.

            • Mossy Feathers (She/They)@pawb.social
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              6 months ago

              I’ll be honest, it took me a while to start remembering “they/them”, even for myself. However, now I have the opposite problem, which is that I tend to substitute “they/them” for gendered pronouns. Normally that’s not a problem because most people accept neutral pronouns, but some people can be very picky about their pronouns and then I have to remember that “they/them” can’t be universally applied to everyone.

      • Rivalarrival@lemmy.today
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        6 months ago

        I shit you not, that is the etymological distinction between the two.

        How strictly that distinction is observed is an open question.