• noli@lemmy.zip
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    5 months ago

    I don’t recall where I heard this advice but someone once told me that when he’s in this situation he asks his SO “do you want solutions or to vent?” Probably doesn’t work for everyone but I liked the idea

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        5 months ago

        Presume they want to vent.

        Someone who wants to vent gets mad if you try to explain.

        Someone who wants and explanation won’t get mad if you talk to them if they want to vent.

        Take the safe bet everytime.

    • vrek@programming.dev
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      5 months ago

      Yup some idea. I think I heard it on Reddit but you put it succinctly.

      Anyone else reading this keep in mind this changes with partners and situations and maybe by day…without specific examples with lot of details it’s hard to tell. If you don’t know, ask kindly.

    • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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      5 months ago

      I’m pretty sure I’ve given this advice at some point on Reddit before.

      Personally I know my SO well enough to know when it’s just venting. I don’t usually need to ask anymore.