• Glitchington
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    735 months ago

    “When you are accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.”

    • @kromem@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      While this is true, it’s also true that pendulum swings can go further in the opposite direction than equality.

      While a trite example, in the recent Barbie film, at the end when things are going back to the seemingly good way, the men in Barbieland ask if they can have a seat on the supreme court and are told no, which is then explained as Barbieland being a mirror to the real world such that as there’s increased equality in the real world then equality for men in the mirror would increase.

      Apparently the writers weren’t familiar with the fact there’s four women on the supreme court right now and a woman has been on the court since 1981 (around twice as close to the creation of Barbie than to the present day).

      Even in the context of its justifiably imbalanced equality it failed to be proportionally imbalanced.

      There’s interesting research around how the privileged underestimate the degree to which the good things that happen to them are because of privilege, but that at the same time the underprivileged overestimate how often the bad things which happen are because of bias. In theory both are ego-preserving adaptations. But it also means that either side is going to have a difficult time correctly identifying equality from their relative subjective perspectives.

      • @oatscoop@midwest.social
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        5 months ago

        While a trite example, in the recent Barbie film

        You mean self aware, hyperbolic satire?

        They know there have been women on the supreme court. It was a reference to second wave feminism, and inverted because that was the joke.

        • @kromem@lemmy.world
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          95 months ago

          While you are welcome to your take, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and here’s the writer/director responding to that very scene:

          Li: Speaking of those video clips, let’s talk more about the ending. Can you tell me about the decision to have the Barbies and Kens reach, not a definitive solution, but kind of a détente? President Barbie, played by Issa Rae, does not allow Ken a seat on the Supreme Court. They’re still figuring things out.

          Gerwig: We’re all still figuring things out—that’s part of it. But the only thing I could ever give anyone is that they’re all still in the mess. Maybe it’s a little better for the Kens. You don’t want to tell people how to watch things, but at the end of the movie, the production design incorporates some of Ken’s fascinations into Barbie Land. Like, the perfection is not as beautiful as the thing that started blending everything together. I remember when we went to shoot the finale, when we all walked on set, we were like, This is the most beautiful it’s ever been.

      • Glitchington
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        -135 months ago

        It was a film about plastic dolls from a corporation trying to seem less like a big bad corporation. If you’re using the Barbie movie as evidence in an actual philosophical debate around other human beings having equal rights, you have bigger problems in life.

          • Glitchington
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            -55 months ago

            Do you like having rights? Probably. Would other people like the same rights? Absolutely. Do people who want rights deserve your ire because of a movie? Fuck no.

              • Glitchington
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                -25 months ago

                Well if your conclusion is that the pendulum could swing too far, my question would be, “Without actually letting go to find out, how do you know it’s a pendulum at all?” A movie isn’t going to give us the answer.

                Sure things could go radically far and we end up in a matriarchal society, but not even trying to provide equal rights isn’t going to prevent radical change. It will force the hand of radical change, if history tells us anything.

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                  5 months ago

                  It’s not my conclusion, I didn’t even read the original comment well enough to remember what they were arguing for. But I think I agree with you here.

                  • Glitchington
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                    15 months ago

                    Good old internet arguments. Glad we landed on an agreeable point. 👍

          • @OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
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            -65 months ago

            Because pop culture corporate feminism isn’t actual meaningful feminism, it is an entirely different beast the serves to reinforce the patriarchy.

    • @Isoprenoid@programming.dev
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      5 months ago

      Correct. Why would anyone go for a worse option for themselves?

      Edit: A benefit to one group does not mean a detriment to others. This is not a zero sum game.

      The funny thing is that the left could offer so many things for men:

      • address mental health issues
      • paternal leave / support for fatherhood
      • Less dangerous work
      • rehabilitation in prisons
      • a free lamborghini
      • address homelessness

      All of which are mostly men issues.

      • Glitchington
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        165 months ago

        Is it really worse? Or does it just hurt your feels when women can decide something on their own?

          • Glitchington
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            45 months ago

            You’re not wrong, but the wage gap? Not going to close if we give everyone a raise. It would be the same wage gap.

            • @barsoap@lemm.ee
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              The gender pay gap is insignificant and inconsequential compared to the income differences between working and owning classes. Also, much of the pay gap is due to men culturally tending to not have the option of escaping the grindset. “Honey I’m going to quit my job and do something that doesn’t alienate me, yes it’s going to pay less” is not something universally accepted by wives.

            • @hakase@lemm.ee
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              -25 months ago

              I’m pretty sure that by this point most reasonable people have realized that the wage gap is a myth, so that’s probably not your best example.

                • @Isoprenoid@programming.dev
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                  25 months ago

                  In addition to being less likely than men to say they are currently the boss or a top manager at work, women are also more likely to say they wouldn’t want to be in this type of position in the future. More than four-in-ten employed women (46%) say this, compared with 37% of men. Similar shares of men (35%) and women (31%) say they are not currently the boss but would like to be one day. These patterns are similar among parents.

                  The wage gap exists because women have reasonable expectations for work-life balance (one reason). Men are culturally expected to rise and grind.

                  This isn’t the win that wage gap enthusiasts think it is. It’s essentially saying:

                  Wanna get paid more? Be a corporate whore.

                  • Glitchington
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                    15 months ago

                    Still missing the point. Giving everyone more doesn’t fix inequality.

                    Giving those with less the means to exist doesn’t make what you have lesser.

                    The point you’ve made here seems to be, corporations are bad, everyone is exploited now, and if anyone wants to make money you have to give up your life to do so.

                    Also, the part of the paper you’ve cherry picked suits your narrative but doesn’t paint the entire picture.

                • @hakase@lemm.ee
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                  5 months ago

                  Not really, since that’s just the same ill-defined “Earnings Gap” nonsense constantly peddled as a “wage gap” for decades. As this article from Forbes and the sources inside explain, and has been well-known for a decade at this point, “When comparing two people in the same profession, with the same seniority, working the same number of hours, and so forth, women earn $0.98 for every dollar that a man earns.”

                  Their source for that number has since updated that number to $0.99 for every dollar a man earns for the same work.

                  So, unless you think that women should be paid significantly more than men for the same work (which wouldn’t surprise me, given your other comments in this thread), Rejoice! for the “wage gap” is no more!

                  • Glitchington
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                    05 months ago

                    It should be dollar for dollar, don’t act like I have implied anything more. I’m done with this, as you missed my original point: Giving everyone more doesn’t fix inequality.

      • @Feathercrown@lemmy.world
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        35 months ago

        Why would anyone go for a worse option for themselves?

        Because if everyone only voted for the things that benefit them, then it’s possible to end up in a situation that’s worse for everybody. If the majorities repeatedly votes for a small benefit to themselves and a large detriment to everyone else, this is basically guaranteed to happen. This is also why voting out of spite is a bad idea.

        Example: Let’s examine a population consisting of 60% white people and 60% Christians, uncorrelated (so 36% white Christians, 24% nonwhite Christians, 24% white non-Christians, and 16% nonwhite non-Christians). This population is making two votes: one that will be Very Bad for nonwhites, and one that will be Very Bad for non-Christians, with a small benefit to white people or Christians respectively. Both will pass, which results in:

        • 36% of the population (white Christians) gets two small benefits

        • 48% of the population (white non-Christians and nonwhite Christians combined) gets a small benefit and something Very Bad for them

        • 16% of the population (nonwhite non-Christians) gets two Very Bad results passed against them

        So the overall result is negative for 64% of the population, despite everyone voting for their interests and everyone voting! This is because the legislation was more bad for the minority than it was good for the majority.

        Bonus: I believe you can use this to prove that you can use a sequence of legislation to get into literally any position you want if everyone votes strictly for things that help them, and I saw a good YT video on that topic, but I can’t find it right now.

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            Only if the appropriate legislation is available to vote on. If the only legislation available is something that hurts you a little and helps someone else a lot, it may be in society’s best interest to vote for it. If you were in a culture that encouraged that, your actions would be repaid by others doing the same, eventually securing large gains for everyone. This is the opposite of my example above, but the math works out the same.

            Essentially, there are situations in which the logical choice is to vote for something that hurts you, or to not vote for something that helps you. (Zero-sum-like situations are especially likely to have this occur.) Over a long period of time, what matters is how much each bill helps society overall, not how much it helps you in particular. (Yes, this stops working if the other groups won’t do the same for you.)

      • @PaupersSerenade@sh.itjust.works
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        05 months ago

        So we should just let ‘minorities’ suffer? The term appeasement comes to mind, as I don’t know what else you could be advocating here.

          • Glitchington
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            Let me get this straight, if you have food to survive, and someone else who doesn’t have food wants some food, not even your food, just some food, you need more food before they get any at all?

            • @Isoprenoid@programming.dev
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              35 months ago

              Did … did you even read my post? What is going on?

              Let me re-write it using your analogy.

              Why not both? Food for minorities and food for majorities.

              This isn’t a zero sum game.

              • Glitchington
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                35 months ago

                Everyone should have food, my point is, the majority shouldn’t get extra food just because the minority are getting enough food now.

    • people_are_cute
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      Nice quote. Won’t win over men who are shifting Right because of consistent targeted alienation in involvement from the Left

      • Glitchington
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        115 months ago

        If other people having rights is “targeted alienation”, then what should we call denying those people rights based on things they can’t control? Because that sounds like actual targeted alienation.

        • @TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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          55 months ago

          You’re straw manning here, that’s not what he said at all.

          He’s referring to the knee jerk lesser treatment of men, because their men, because some other men have done bad shit. If you’re constantly grouped in with the worst of a group just for existing, of course you get sucked into that group.

          • Glitchington
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            -35 months ago

            Hard to Strawman, a Slippery Slope. I was merely pointing out it’s a Slippery Slope without whipping out my Fallacies.

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          -15 months ago

          Read my comment again, slowly. What does “alienation in involvement” mean?

          • Glitchington
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            55 months ago

            If uplifting groups of oppressed people to an equal standard is alienating to you, then you are falling into the tolerance paradox, and you should probably stop that.