• transigence
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    -1210 months ago

    State interference with and regulation of marriage is, and always was, an abomination. Marriage is a religious and societal institution, and the state only got involved to prevent miscegeny.
    The Christian church isn’t going to recognize gay weddings, but anyone else is welcome to.
    I’d be happy to advocate with you in the pursuit of getting the state out of marriage.

    • @HipHoboHarold@lemmy.world
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      210 months ago

      And since the state has been involved for a long time, that means it should be open to anyone. Just as it’s been open to others such as atheists. They weren’t doing it for religious purposes. Nor were kings and queens when they would marry their children to unite kingdoms. Or people who basically married their children in exchange for cattle.

      My point isn’t to get the state out of marriage since at this point it is more so a legal document and something that couples do out of love for each other. But the idea that it’s a religious thing is ridiculous. Not to mention its hardly an argument since that means that gay people have even more rights to get married, since some church’s, including Christian ones, will do it. If anything the idea that being gay is a sin has been slowly falling out of Christianity in the same way that interracial marriages were something many Christians were against at one point. So the idea that it’s somehow an argument against same sex marriage is absolutely false, and would only open the doors even more. It doesn’t even have to be religious. Being married is just being married.

      “But some church’s wouldn’t count it!” Funny. I was raised Mormon. According to them most straight marriages don’t count either since they weren’t don’t in a Mormon temple. I don’t see others complaining that their church doesn’t recognize it.

      Not only was this just moving the goal post, but it also is one that has been discussed many times and has always been torn apart.

      • transigence
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        -510 months ago

        I think kinship ties should be and should have always been available to declare or establish at the state level, and calling it a marriage just confuses the issue. I also don’t think it should be restricted to couples, either, but it is.
        I think the churches should have their business and the state should have its own business. Modern marriage really only serves to invite the state into the bedroom, so I don’t even think about it as something that should be fought for. I mean, have at it if you want it, but I think you’ll find that it just invites more problems than it solves. I don’t recommend anyone ever get married in 2023.

    • @emergencyfood@sh.itjust.works
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      210 months ago

      Marriage refers to two things - (1) a legal contract between two people, mediated by the state, and (2) societal and/or religious acceptance of two people as a married couple. Nowadays, in most parts of the world, only the first matters for most purposes. So the state should recognise all marriages, but religions and society are free to have their own conditions as long as they do not harass people they don’t like.